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How Can I Change My Mom's Mind About Getting a Nose Piercing?
I want to get my nose pierced. Not for anyone else but myself. I've done some research about it, and know about the process and affects of it and decided to approach my mom about it. She IMMEDIATELY dimissed my suggestion to get a nose piercing. She's totally ignorant of that subject and said unfair things. I'm not sure if she thinks it is trashy, but she had NO backup to her "no" answer other than..."what are people going to say in job interviews when you get oldeR? do you want a hole in your nose?" I explained that the small stud i wants leaves a very tiny hole and that it can be easily removed. She said i didn't know what i was talking about.
=/ ugh. I don't want to dye my hair or change anything like that, and i don't have any other piercings. This is the ONLY thing that i want, and know i would be able to take care of it.
What can i say to change her mind? My dad is fine with it.
If there are any adults on here...what do you think of a person who has a nose ring?
f/16
thanks
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I normally don't recommend nose piercings if you don't have the time and effort for them. I've had mine done twice, looked after them perfectly, yet they still have their moments where it can take MONTHS to correct.
You're 16, so you know what you want. Usually, I'm giving advice to 12 year olds who want it as a fashion statement and don't know the troubles it can bring.
The worst one is the bump which can form around your stud/ring. This happens to most cartilage piercings. It's not a threat to the piercing itself and it doesn't mean you have to take it out, but you must be prepared to baby it in order for it to go.. which takes a very long time. and can still return.
I'm not trying to put you off, because you may be one of the lucky people it doesn't happen to :)
Basically, the first few weeks are crucial. If it's fine after that, you most probably wont have any future problems.
Firstly, tell your mum not to worry about the hole staying in your nose. If you want to take it out, it disappears within a few months.
Also, explain if you have any problems with it, YOU will take responsibility and you will take care of it perfectly.
I take it your mum doesn't want you to do something you might regret. Tell her this isn't the case and you've been thinking about it for a long, long, time now.
Try to make a compromise. If she lets you get your nose pierced, you will promise to do things around the house for example.
I was 17 when I got mine done and I didn't tell my mum. I came home with a ring through my nose. She was a bit shocked, but grew to like it.
I'm not saying to go behind your mums back, but maybe tell her you COULD just go and get it done. But you thought you'd ask her first. Reverse psychology could work :)
Also, try and get your dad to talk to her. After all, a nose piercing isn't the end of the world.
Show your mum these;
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She may even grow to like it herself :)
Best of luck. and I hope she changes her mind for you!
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I'm not sure if you said your dad lives with you and your mom or not. If he's fine with it all you need to do is tell him that she will not read literature on it and is ignornat about the facts and that the stud can be removed for social functions, church etc.
Have your dad approach your mother about it and then use his permission to get it if she won't budge. It will be his problem not yours if she becomes unahppy afterwards. You guys gave her the info and the chance to get educated on it.
She has a point about job interviews and ignorant people looking at you etc. However, her fear isn't about what people will think of her daughter and her piercing it's about what they will think of her when she is out with you. You should bring that to your dad's attention and use it.
That's what it's all about her, her ignorance about piercings and fear of how yours will affect her status with others. Other people aren't the ones who are passing judgment on said piercing it's her. she has some hang-ups about it and your father can address them if you get her the research and have him talk to her.
Also, at 16-years-old I don't *think* this kind of piercing needs a permission slip. It might for younger people but maybe not for you. I know piercings below the belt require you to be 18. If you tell your father you want to do it on your own I don't think you can be stopped unless the parlour says you must be 18.
Don't go on your own without telling your father as you will need him to back you up with mom that he approved. All you might need is for him to provide a letter giving permission and his contact nummbers before they pierce you.
Do not try to create said letter yourself or your problems will be bigger than a hole in your nose ;) Approach your father about it, print out the research you have accumulated and have him go to her with it. I'm sure it will work out.
As far as being an adult goes I think it doesn't matter what others think of it. It matters only that you are happy about it. Who the hell is anyone else to make a judgment on what is right for you to be doing about anything let alone this?
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what you should say to your mom is if you have worked really hard and truly deserve it then tell her mom i have worked hard and i think i should get it pierced. And if you have good grades. plus if she has any tatoos say mom you have tatoos so why cant i hav it pierced.
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