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depressed... can u help?
im just rele... not in a good mood. im pretty upset and i need some1 to talk to. i just feel like shit and like i shouldnt be. my whole problem is i wear my heart on my sleeve and ive already tried to cut it off but that didnt work. i just fall for people way to easy and then they never like me for anything than just a friend. tonight i went to a play to watch the girl i liek perform cuz lastngiht she invited me and i decided i would come again. well lastnight i couldnt ifnd her and tonight i told her after the play to come find me and i would be sitting where i was before. well i waited for 5 minuites then found one of my other frineds and talked to her until she helped me find the other girl. she was talking to and upperclassmen (btw, im a freshman and the girl i liek is a freshman) and it really hurt me inside to see her with him cuse it is obvious tht she probubly likes him and he probubly likes her only for her body. im tryin to hold back tears while writing this cuz my mom is downstairs and if i cry she knows something is wrong. this spring break has completely sucked for me. ive already thought of giving up on everything. i just feel so unloved and its got me depressed and its slowly killing me.
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Oh sweetie, you poor thing. It nearly broke my heart reading your cry for help. First things first. DONNOT, UNDER ANY CIRRCUMSTANCES DECIDE TO "END IT ALL"! I swear, t would be the worst thing you ever did, That's right, don't make me come over there. Now, correct me if i'm wrong, but did you say you'd been cutting yourself? If you are, STOP RIGHT NOW! You can't help yourself that way. As for that snobby performing monkey, forget her. I know that will be really difficult, but do it. As for the friend who help you find her, maybe she 's the right one for you. The thing is, dating and crushes, they're part of life, and, yes, it will hurt when you get your heart stomped on, and you may hurt others, but you have to keep going, and push through till you find "The One". Your Significant Other. Your best friend. Know, that people care about you. I don't even know you and i'm trying to stop you from giving up your life for a reason. So go out there, flirt shamelessly, and make that performing babon feel sorry she EVER toyed with your emotions! And remember, Yay you!!!!
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well, i think that the first thing that you need to realize is wether or not your depressed emotions are comming just from this situation with the girl, or wether your just depressed in general. if its just about the girl, i would sit her down, tell her how you feel, and see what she has to say in return. (i know that might sound a little scary, but hey, your already feeling really down, so things can basically only get better.) however, if yoru depressed feelings are more rounded on your whole outlook on life at this point and time, then i suggest you tell a very trusted adult. depression is something that i went through for five months, and am still recovering from, and please, please, if you get anything from this answer that im typing to you, understand this: depression will only get WORSE if it is not treated properly and with the proper amount of time. after talking to a trusted adult, you should maybe even see a therapist, one just to talk to, one to perscribe medication, or BOTH. finally, what you can do to really start feeling better is to excersie, which lets off a chemical in the brain that helps you feel better. (clinicly true) eat healthy, (sunflower seeds contain a natural antidepresant that can make you feel calm adn good) and try to focus your attention on getting better; whether that means more time to yourself, your family, and/or your friends that you trust. finally, if you EVER feel like hurting yourself, please, call, or log-on to right away.......
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Dear Reader,
I know how it is, trust me, I do too but I try not to.
When you meet a girl, dont automatically say, "oh i like her," or dont like her because she's cute or something. Go deeper then that. Get to know her, talk to her be her FRIEND first. Just be a friend first before you do anything else. If you then like her for who she is after you've gotten to know her, then starting to like her is alright then because you know that underneath the prettyness she has personality. Don't take girls liking other guys too seriously, I know it hurts, trust me, Iknow, but try not to. If you do everytime it'll get you more and more depressed. I'm a freshman if it helps and I know how it is. You seem like a great guy and if you wait until maybe your sophmore year you'll find that girls change over the summer and its like they're new again. Give it time. I think with all the heartache that you're going through you just need a break. You seem really nice and really caring if you went to her preformance. The guy friend I'm intrested in didnt even do that for me, so you seem really cool.
Give it time, give yourself room, and you'll find someone. good luck, let me know how things go and i hope i helped.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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Aww, I know exactly how you feel. I wear my heart on my sleeve as well, and I wish I didn't. Sometimes I fall for the wrong person, or fall too quickly & they end up not liking me only resulting me to get hurt in the end.
Since I'm figuring out how to change this as well, I'll tell you what I've learned so far.
When you start talking to someone, try to not fall immeadiately. Get to know them, become their friend, hang out with them, & talk to them alot. Once you've achieved becoming their good/close friend, then start to like them. Also, don't tell them you like them immeadiately because it might make things awkward, or they might not like you back.
Don't automatically assume that they like someone else just because they're talking to someone else. They may just be friends, or he might've complimented her on her performance. If she didn't come to you immeadiately, don't assume she forgot about you, just think that maybe she was on her way to talk to you when that guy came up. She could've been doing a ton of things, so don't think it was her intention.
Also, don't let a girl bum you out dude. Seriously, you're how old? 14-15 years old? Girls are not the world. You should be finding out who you are, and what you're about. And concentrating on school. A girl could bring your grades down & make you lose focus. If you like her, that's cool, but try to worry about your grades first since they're more important. And don't give everything up because of her. She might not be worth it, & if she doesn't like you, that's cool. There are plenty of other girls out there, and life right now for you shouldn't be about relationships. You've got a lot of time for those when you're older.
If you still need someone to talk to, then IM me at tina's mad hood, and I'll be glad to help you. =)
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Maybe you should talk the girl and see whats going on before you make any conclusions. I'm so sorry that you're feeling as bad as you are, you sound like a good guy and shouldn't be treated that way. Remember your family and friends love you. Just because one other person doesnt..
Let me know how everything goes :]
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