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best friend
i love my best friend to death, but i always feel like she talks about herself and thinks that i care. i don't really know what to say to her..usually this is online when this happens, and i usually just say "lol" or something like that, trying to give her a hint that i'm not that interested. and whenever i talk about myself like a problem i'm having for a little bit, she helps me for a little bit then just stops caring. UGH it bugs me so MUCH!!!
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Dear Friend,
I think that you need to talk to her about it and if you need to rant about something, and its online, just be like, "Okay, i need to rant, is that okay?" and just start ranting. If she starts talking about herself, just try to tell her something else that's not her related but related to something else, another words, link it to a new topic thats not about her. I hope that helped, good luck with everything and let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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This is usually a problem that only childs in a fmaily have or the youngest. They have to strive harder for attention and to be heard that talking about themselves too much in front of others becomes second nature.
They don't even have any clue they are doing it and annoying people with it. Even if she's not the youngest or an only child some people just have a big problem in this area.
The problem here is that she has no idea she even does this or that there is a problem. She's oblivious and not likely to believe you unless you can show her that she's doing it and come to her with examples of it.
When you are alone with her just tell her that you need to tell her about something that is affecting your friendship and her social life on the whole. Tell her that you and her other friends have become upset because she tends to rattle on too much about herself and not listen to others if they do the same. Give examples to her.
Let her know that guys are picking up on it too and it turns people off especially when she doesn't listen to others who need her help but expects it from you and her friends.
Do this alone and privately. She's likely to get upset or feel hurt but once she thinks about it she will realize you helped her out ten fold here. Just whatever you do don't have this conversation with her and a group of concerned friends.
She will feel ganged up upon and will dispise you. Do it in private, be sincere and she'll have the right reaction and want to change.
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i would talk to her about it then ask her to be more conciterate -kayla
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So talk to her about it.
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