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how far is far?
so im a sophmore girl and all be 16 soon all my friends have gone pretty far with a boy and well me, i havnt. when my friends ask me how far i have gone im kind of ashamed of the truth so i exagerate the truth a little, well.......a lot!so they all think im something im not. what should i do, i'll sound like an idiot if im just like "just kidding i havnt gone that far". so a little help please?
and i have had the chance to go further but im scared of not doing something right or if the boy thinks im dumb or if i do something tsupid so yeah
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i am in the same boat, girl. i'm 15 and i'm a sophomore. the most i've done is kiss but do i care? hell no. if someone is willing to go that extra mile and judge you by your experience, they're not worth it. when someone asks me how far i've been with a guy i tell them "what does it matter to you? will you feel better about yourself if i tell you? will you be jealous if i tell you? why do you care?". okay i've only said that once, and in a bad case, but you get what i mean. just don't do anything because everyone else is doing it. seriously. my friend wanted to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend and i thought it was the biggest mistake of her life. this guy ended up cheating on her and i told her that it was karma. its not about how much experience you have, its about the purpose of each experience. make each experience you have meaningful and don't worry about how many experiences you have. quality not quantity, baby ;)
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Well, I'm going to start by saying that you are only sixteen, sex isn't something to rush into. A lot of the time teens your age like to brag about things they haven't done to look like they are cool and experienced in the eyes of their peers. Don't let that affect your decisions sexually.
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This line works best if you have a steady boyfriend but also works if you are casually dating a few people here and there. Just tell them that you made an agreement with your date(s) to "never kiss and tell" or that it's your policy to "never kiss and tell."
You could also tell them something like this "Your imagination could come up with far steamier than any of my experiences." or the ever popular "You just wish it happened to you." or something that will generate a laugh or to.
If they persist just tell them you never talk about what you did or didn't do with guys so that they don't tell locker room stories about you. Let them know that you think keeping this stuff private whether you are experienced with guys or not is the best option for you. After all, a lady never tells.
Just joke about this topic if it comes up and give up no information. If they see that you can dance in circles and never give them what they want to hear they'll get bored of this quick and never ask again.
Bottom line don't tell them what you don't want to but don't lie either. Lies bite you in the butt especially if you are dating smeone and you said you did X and they think it means with him. Rumors are not wha you need.
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Never be ashamed of who you are. It sounds like your not ready to go to a certain level with a guy. Don't push yourself just because your friends have. If your friends dove off a building, would you do it too? Next time someone asks you that you can either a)tell them the truth, or b)tell them to mind their own business (because to be honest, nobody should know about your sexual, thats a personal thing). If anything, guys will end up respecting you more if you stick to your limits- as for the 'easier' girls, the guys will just go to them for one night stands. If I were you, I think I'd go for the respect instead of the one night stand.
Hope I could help.
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