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Love problems
I, 16/m, should probably tell you now I'm gay or you lose the entire premise of this. okay, so It was New Year's Eve and I called one of my friends (we'll call him Jake for further analysis.) Jake, 14/m, and we started talking. Jake's an eighth grader and I'm a high school sophmore. So I told him that I liked him on New Year's, thinking that he didnt like me back. Well, he did. So we dated for the next week and then I answered the phone and he told me, "your not gonna like this," and I mean, I got pretty scared. Well, then he said, "I gotta go, I'll ttyl," and then right before he hung up, he goes, "I'm straight."
So Im thinking okay, I need to talk to him and see if our friendship is still okay. So I call him back a day later and I told him I'd like to talk about it, and he says, "I dont have any thing else to say." and I got pissed and hung up.
Plus Jake's older brother is a Senior at my school and really popular in the theater dept. like I hope to be. So I got really scared that his brother might find out and just told a few of my friends.
Well, literally, two months passed without me seeing him, and then I went to my schools spring musical and he was there I talked to him during intermission and he still said he didnt know his sexuality. I told him that I thought I deserved an explanation. He said I did, but someone interupted us, and I never got one.
Right as we were going back to our seats I told him that I was over him and that I wanted him out of my life.
I cried through the entire second act, as I was driven home, as I went to sleep, and two days later.
I dont know what to do. I don't want to love him, and he doesnt deserve it, but I do. Please help me. What should I do?
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this boy is probly just scared like most of our 8th grade boys your too old and too sweet for this boy you diserve better so you wake up and smell the flowers because most boys are childish and no effence but gay young ones who just started out because they dont know what they want so dont sweat it just be you and walk away
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The best thing you can do right now is surround yourself with family and friends that really do care about you. Keep yourself really busy with things you enjoy and make you happy. Throw yourself into spending time with people you care about, your schoolwork, your job (if you have one), the theater, ANYTHING to keep yourself busy and to help get your mind off him. Maybe try going out and joining a new club to meet new people. I'm sure that the more you keep yourself busy and more you put yourself out there, the easier it will be to get over him and find someone else that will give you the respect you deserve.
Since the guy is only in eighth grade, you need to remember that he's young and it wasn't really a good idea to get involved with him since he was still learning about his sexuality. Try going for guys that are closer to your age that are more mature. Good luck!
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there's only one way you can really get over him, you did a good thing when you told him that you dont't want him in your life anymore but you just have to stand by this decision erase or get rid of everything that reminds you of him... fir example his number if its in your phone or written down somewhere, block his s/n just get rid of him. try to not even think about him apparently hes not worth it... you should find someone who treats you right and don't waste your time worrying about him. this might take alittle time but eventually you will be over him...just try to not even think about him..hope i helped!
-katie
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It's easy to feel these feelings. You got lead on by a guy you thought liked you. You deserve to be mad at him, and he deserves none of your love.
If he didn't know his sexuaility, he should've never hooked up with you, or even told you he liked you. So leading you on was a big mistake. Next time you hook up with someone, make sure they're absolutely positive of their sexuaility, and that you're what they really want because if not, then what's the point? You're just gonna get hurt.
Even though you dated for such a short period of time, I believe you really liked him. So, getting over him will take time. No matter how long it'll take [more than months, cause you're past that point], it'll heal. I know there's nothing worse than heartbreak, but you can't be too trusting.
Try & focus your time on other things. Try for the theatre for your school for next year. Maybe do a spring sport? Do anything. Paint, draw, write, try music. Anything to take your focus off of him. I think it's best you guys go without literally seeing each other for a while that way you both have time to think. He'll be questioning himself for a while since he is 14. He probably won't know his sexuality for sure for a while, so try & date around until he comes around. Only wait for him if you want to, but I believe if someone hurts you once, they'll probably do it again.
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