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How to keep friends from stabbing you in the back?
I've had too many friends that have stabbed me in the back. I have done nothing but be there for them. Yes they've been there for me, but I realized I can't do it anymore. My last friend I ended up losing her because I finally told her how I felt about her. At least I was honest to her face. But now she thinks because she's pregnant she's better than everyone. It makes me feel bad because I told her how I felt, but it also makes me feel good because I was finally able to stand up to her and make her realize that I ain't gonna take it anymore. If anyone has any advice PLEASE LET ME KNOW.
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yeah it seems like we all have that problem...even best of best friends will end up stabing you in the back, when you've NEVER done anything to them. But I would say just try to talk to them, and be like i didn't mean it to ruin our friendship, it was just something i had to get off my back. You have to forget about a lot of things in life, nothing is perfect. But everyone is differnt, and everyone isn't going to feel the same way about some things.
I hope i helped :)
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there are many ways why a friend would backstab you or take advantage of you.They can take advantage of you if your way too nice to them like you do their homeworks and stuff like that.They can take advantage of you if they think you have no personality or opinion and just go with the flow too much.Taking advantage of you is the same as stabbing you in the back.OR they can just be bad people.Or if they just didnt like you then they would use you to get to something eles.Thats why you should always try to be sure of the people your hanging out with.As for the pregnant girl that thinks shes all mature and cool for being pregnant,that shouldnt even BOTHER you one bit.Shes a teen with a baby making her a child with a child and both need mothers still.Its good that you stood up to her and told her that your not gonna take it anymore.Dont let it bother you.All these false freindships make you stronger and more wiser in picking your freinds and gets you more experienced.
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When you're a teenager, you're at the state of find your self identity. That means finding out who your true friends are, who you are, what you're about, what you're good at, & what you're not good at. You're gonna change a lot. The people around you are gonna change a lot. Change can be good & positive. In this case, negative.
Right now, you're finding out who your true/real friends are. There's a differenc between having a few good/close friends than having a lot of friends who mean nothing. Honestly, I rather have a lot of friends, because when they stab me in the back, I'm gonna know who cared & who really didn't, thus allowing them to be good/close friends.
And you're right. At least you can stand up to her & not let her walk all over you. That's a good quality to have with anyone, really. Don't be a doormat. Let no one be mean to you, and don't let anyone put you down. As much as you're gonna hate life these next few years, the changes never stop. You're always gonna be figuring yourself out. You're normal, and only human. But just know, people are gonna backstab all the time, and there's nothing anyone can do to stop it. Basically, when they do, just stop being friends with them. If they've done it once, the chances of them doing it are high.
I've been figuring myself out for the past 3 years and I'm still not at a basis for myself, so don't think the change is gonna happen immeadiately. And remember: fuck people, and fuck opinions. You matter & what they say usually won't. =)
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I've had the exact same problem!
My adivce, well if they are going to stab you in the back, they obvously aren't very good friends. Dont get discouraged. you'll find someone who will be there for you where you are least expecting it. i found mine in a community band that I'm in. Not all people are back stabbers. just remember that!
good luck!
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You know what, you remind me of what I went through with three of my best friends who back-stabbed me too... I know it hurts...It hurts alot...But I learnt to live with it... At that point of time I had many friends who supported me and sypathised with me...But I always longed for that close friend who would truly understand me... And I finally found that one true friend... The point is not about having many friends who tell you what you want to hear and expect you to do the same... Find yourself just one person who you know will truly understand you and tell you the truth about yourself... It doesn't neccesarily have to be a girl from school... Trust me...I found my best friend in my guitar class teacher !
Best Of Luck , xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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