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texting and calling?
hey i was just wondering.
ive been in my relationship for about 9 months now, and the calling and texting has slowed right up.. ive told him that i dont think he calls me enough and in response he said that he doesnt want to feel like he has to call me.. which is fair enough.. but is this just a guy thing with not texting much.. he said hes not a texter, which is good, but he could at least call me more. is twice a week to little, considering i only see him once or twice a week.
hes gone away fishing for a few weeks, and the calling has narrowed down to once a week maybe twice, does this mean he wants to end it by avoiding me or is it just he doesnt like calling much or something?
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i slightly agree with hectorjr.------he's probably just a guy who doesnt like or remember to call people, and you should probably not get on his case about not calling so much cause---just because you guys are going out doesnt mean you have to talk at every waking moment, and seeing as he's away fishing you might wanna just consider calling him if you need to talk...in time he will probably start calling you just as much as you want him too, or get to talking when YOU call him haha.....
just keep in mind he's a guy and not most guys have a phone permanently attached---it probably doesnt mean he wants to end it, but if you really are suspicious about that then just lookout for signs when you are actually together in person----but just be glad that he's not calling you like everyday
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I'm a guy, but I get exactly what you mean. Don't reach for the "if he really likes you he'll call/text you" conclusion, because (most) guys don't think the way girls do. When I first started in a relationship, it never occurred to me that it was a OK, or even a good thing, if I called whenever I wanted to talk. Was it because I didn't like her? Absolutely not! I just never thought of it the same way she and a lot of girls did. Also, it takes a lot to go from somebody that almost never uses the phone, to somebody who is completely attached and always calls/texts people, especially for guys.
I've felt at one point, and almost all of my friends have too, that calling the girlfriend first often would show that we are too clingy; most of the time, we just wanted to give you space and not annoy you at all. The texting thing varies from person to person. I've found that for the guys that I know, they either text 1000+ messages, or they are the opposite and almost never text unless they have to. It's not necessarily a bad thing.
Give him a chance to come around. Just because he doesn't call you right away or first all the time doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Also, if you are always calling and texting him first, then that might give him reason not to call or text you first since he expect you to do so anyway. I think that if he wanted to end it, he would have done so already, and not just avoid you. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Well honey only he can tell you wether he wants to end it or not but my best friend calls me every night and for him being your boyfriend and not to at least try and call or txt to check how you are doesnt say much. Guy thing or no guy thing any guy will tell you that if he really likes a girl then hes gonna txt or call wether people say hes whipped or whatever it is guys say to each other these days. I think what you should both do is when he gets back from his trip come up with a plan like he can call one night and you the other give it a couple months and that way you will no that if he tries his best to do this then hes worth it if not then id consider sitting down and asking why it is he doesnt call and having a think about wether he is really worth all this worrying that your doing.
good luk and I hope that you can both work something out or that you at least find happiness.
Hope I helped and wasnt a bitch.
yours dxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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