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bad frienddd?
so, my friend "Lucy" and i hang out together alot with other people. sometimes she cant go to things or i do something without her but i dont make her feel bad, i try not to make a big deal out of it (even if it was super fun) in an effort to not make her feel left out. yet, i got groudned last night, so i couldn't go to this one thing with lucy and my other 2 friends. well i talked to the other 2 friends after and they were like oh it was good but we missed you, we just talked and watched a movie. then lucy of coursse has to make a huuuge deal out of it, saying it was like the best night and how fun it was and like trying to make me feel super left out. of course, the ONE night im not there it's the BEST NIGHT EVER. and it's not like this is the first time it happened, she ALWAYS does that when i'm not there and im SICK OF IT.
i dont know hwat to do. should i give her a taste of her own medicine in the future? but im not like that. should i just let it roll of my shoulders? it makes me angry though. i dont know what to do or why she does this.
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i have a friend that does the same thing. she is always trying to make me feel all sad that i was left out. and i know how you feel, it makes you feel like crap.
but i think that you shouldn't do it back, because then she will most likely just continue what she is doing. i tried that once and it only made things worse. like my one friend was mad that i was hanging out with my other friends, so she had to hang out with some of her other friends. and then oh boy it was bad! she started bragging about how much fun it was just to make me feel bad that i wasn't there. but then i realized that she was just exaggerating everything and that it wasn't as fun as she told me it was.
so anyways back to you lol. you should just smile and nod whenever she is bragging about how fun it was. just be like "ok thats cool, glad you had fun." that way she will eventually realize that it doesn't bother you and she will stop.
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If it bothers you enough, do it back to her, so she knows how it feels.
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Be the better person and don't play her game - wouldn't be worth it really and you seem better than that anyway. Just don't let it bother you and it'll eventually stop when she sees that it has no effect on you. :) As for why she does it, that part I have no idea about. It may just be a matter of her not realising she is doing it. Sorry I couldn't give a more indepth reply though.
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