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meeting friends through other friends
[ i am a girl ] okay. i have this one friend names katlyn who cheers with me, and she was literally my best friend. we were insepperatable..but then one day i was over at my other friend kelley's house..and i was talking to katlyn on AIM. kelley said she thought katlyn was hilarious..so she asked for her screen name..i gave it to her. a couple weeks later kelley said she wanted to meet katlyn..and i said sure..no big deal right? so all three of us plan a sleepover last august. after the sleepover, kelley and katlyn talked a lot, but katlyn always assured me she didnt like kelley..or so i thought. months later, me and katlyn went through some friendship problems. it was bad. and during it kelley and katlyn got extremely close..until they planned a sleepover..WITHOUT me. and ever since that day i look at them differently. they put me through a lot of pain.. and now, we finally got it all worked out and we planned an "all three of us" sleepover..but kelley and katlyn also planned something just with them..the night before. i dont know what to do..i guess the only reason i feel soo weird about all this is that if it wasnt for me, kelley and katlyn would have no connection.. how should i handle this? and how can i help forgive them? sorry this is long..but i need the advice..im desperate.
♥thank you for your time
signed, *hopeless forgiver*
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the SAME thing happened with two of my friends! i pretty much stopped talking to them [ not completely, but for the most part ] and let them figure things out.
i dont know if youd want to do that with kelley and katlyn too but you do have other choices.
another choice is: tell them how you feel. be TOTALLY honest. if they were your real friends, they'll understand and this whole thing will be solved. if they keep discluding you, i'd find some new more respectful friends.
do you want to forgive them? you definitely don't have to. it's your choice.
hope i helped :]
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This happened to me a few years ago when I was young. It's difficult to seperate two friends and being the one left behind. If you and Katlyn were inseperable, Katyln should understand you. Call her over for a sleepover just with you and her. If Kelley and Katyln can have a sleepover with you, you can have one with Kelley. At the sleepover, talk to her and how you feel. Let your feelings out! Don't be scared. A good friend understand your feelings but a best friend will be with you all the way from beginning to end. If you were her best friend, just tell her how you feel. You don't have to consider that you hate Kelley because you probably don't. She just don't like her because she took your friend. A group of 3 is difficult to cope with. Friends going on sides and leaving one behind always. Get a new friend and also reunite with Katyln if possible if Katlyn is hanging with Kelley, you have someone else to be with . Hoped I helped! If the sleepover doesn't work, call her or even go to her house and speak with her.
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It is true that Katyln is your friend and even a really close friend- but that doesn't mean she can't have other friends. In this world, it is better to know more than one person and maybe she just wants to get along better with other people. Also, they planning a sleepover without you- maybe they are just getting close and want to spend some more time together or they just thought you were to busy. Talk this over with Katyln but personally I would just go with the flow- make some other friends because if you do talk to Katyln about it- she'll feel like you are being over possessive about it and only want her to be your friends.
I had really close friends in elementary school but after the seperate in junior high, we lost contact. Even though I see them again, we don't greet each other and even if we do- it is just a simple 'hi'. It is not that we don't care anymore but it is just a cycle, you lose some you gain some. MAybe you'll realize there are other people that understand you better or you get along with them better. I don't have super close friends anymore because I know that it will change once you move to a different school, but it doesn't mean I don't have any friends. I still have a lot and it is just that if you want to befriend someone-it doesn't mean you have to devote your life to that person.
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omg this happend to me like 4 years ago. but like i just found new friends and then a year later my best friend who is your katlyn came running back b/c she got sick of her. so wish you all the best. so just find new friends and dont worry about it.
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