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worried about my friend
15/f
k i have this friend and shes 16 and we're like really close... shes really sweet and teachers love her, all honors classes, honor roll, the whole deal. but lately shes been like rebelling a lot i guess and i don't like it at all. i mean i'm finee with alcohol and i'm even ok that she does pot once in a while.. but now shes like hooking up with random older drunk and she wants to have sex with one of them... but i think she'll really regret it later.. i mean shejus met the kid and they're not gonna go out. and also shes going to this party for st patricks day this weekend that im esp. worried about.. in order to get there she has to drive her and her friends and she only has her permit! so like.. if she gets pulled over i'm really scared.. plus there's gonna be more intense drugs at this party that i really don't like. i try to tell her she's making a mistake but she won't listen and tells me to 'live for today' ... idk am i being to harsh?? are there any specific ways to tell her? and getting new friends is not really an option for me. trust me, its not gonna work. thanks =/
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Well i think that she needs to experience the damage herself. Let her get into trouble and then maybe she'll see that she needs to stop. Thats aboutt the only way to make someone stop doing things that their friends or family knows is hurting them. Well i dont think your being to harsh at all, your just looking out for a good friend of yours. She may get mad and want to do even more bad stuff if you keep nagging her about it ( not saying your nagging!)..so dont talk to her for a while and maybe she'll get the point that if your ignoring her then she'll stop.
Good Luck
Krystal
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I'd tell her not to drive, first of all. It's St. Patty's day weekend, and there will probably be tons of random cop-stops.
Not to mention, if she's drinking or doing drugs at this party and tries to drive not only herself, but her friends home, it's going to land her a harder problem than just driving with a permit.
Present her with all of the that are likely to go wrong with this, along with the long-term results of her actions. Maybe it'll knock some sense into her.
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If she's usually a good student it sounds like something has gone wrong in her life and she's let go.
This is the typical movie scene, drinking, drugs and hooking up.
Maybe you should confront her about her actions and ask what's wrong and be a good friend. If not, you have to tell someone. She'll be angry at you at first but in the end she'll be thanking you.
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no way.. your not being harsh at all, im sorry to say, but you need to tell someone, an adult.. she'll be mad, but in the long run, it'll be worth it.. tell someone BEFORE the party. if shes going to be driving drunk, high whatever else, then shes going to end up killing her, or someone else that will be with her.. you NEED to get her help and fast!.. hope i helped<3
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