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Is it time to end?
To get this out of the way... :D I am 16/f and this might be little bit long but please bear with me here :D
So I have been going out with this guy named Ryan for little over a month (which is my surprise and to everyone else as well because I never had relationship longer than 2 weeks but thats beside the point)
When we were hitting 2nd week into our relationship, he told me he loved me. I didn't say it back because I wasnt sure and he said it was okay and totally understanding so that's cool and out of the way.
But now it seems like I have to chase for him to like me. (well not exactly but I have to try and go out my way to ... well... like is the only word I can think of)
I mean just the other day, he stood me up because he forgot. I know he has terrible memory and whatnot but still that's not a good enough of an excuse right? i mean I understand if I didn't remind him about it but I had reminded about our meet over 5 times.
Also he again forgot to call to discuss when we can meet again after he promised. I know i know guys forget to call but he didn't have to promise about it which would've been lot better off.
So now I am not sure what to do. This lady whom I confide in lot of things (because she's a good listener and had been through all this...she's over 30 by the way but totally cool for her age :D) well she thinks i should end it right now because there's no point into being in a relationship if I have to chase after for it.
My friends thinks im being paranoid and unappreciative.
Which makes me more confused than ever. I can not go into details about this but I have hard time processing and have things thought out or even make a choice so please help
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hey, alright well i agree with the girl that you confide in. i personally think that if the guy cant even remember that you were suppose to hangout together and that if you slip his mind that easily, than its not worth it. you deserve someone that will appreciate you and will not forget about you. i know i know, your probably thinking "oh thats what everyone says", but its totally true. he shouldnt have to be reminded to call his own girlfriend or to even remember plans that he had with his own girlfriend. i wouldnt completly end it here. i would talk to him about it first, because to me it seems that you want to make this work. if hes not willing to change, then i would end it. it would be the best for you. it might take some time to get over, but just remember that when your looking for another guy, think about the bad qualities that your last ones had.
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Clearly you care about this relationship - he doesn't seem to be that interested. Let him know that it's bothering you and all that.
Don't waste too many brain cells on this. If it keeps on going, end it. If he cared (at all), he'd come back to you and all the mushy lovey stuff would happen all over again.
Good luck
Kay
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This is coming from another person who's over 30 but totally cool for my age:
Don't play games. Don't let him play games. You don't have time for it.
Ask him flat-out whether he wants to be with you because 'going out' is precisely that - it's a verb, not just a state of being. If he wants to be in a relationship with you, he has to put in the work and time. He's going to have to make a committment to remembering your dates and make an effort to call. Otherwise, yeah, you're just wasting your time. And before you know it, you'll be all old and over 30! ;)
Sabine
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