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My "parents." =[
I keep crying cause of this and it's making feel so stupid. My father has always yelled/cussed at everyone about the stupidest things, which already upset me. But now, my mom is starting to start yelling at me about the dumbest things. I cried for about two hours cause of it the other day. Do I even have a reason to be crying? My mom used to be the only person I could talk to whenever my Dad upset me by yelling at me, but now I can't even talk to HER about it cause she just does the same thing. Is there something I can do to either take my mind off of it or get them to stop or SOMETHING?
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It sounds as though your fathers temper is getting to your mum now, and she is reacting to it by shouting at you. This is obviously not a good situation for any of you.
Your father may have reasons for the way he behaves, he might have had a difficult childhood which influences the way he is now, he could be under pressure at work etc.
It must be very hard for your mother as well as you to live in this environment and not become affected by it. She might not even be aware that she has now started to act the same as your father.
If you can, try to get your mum on her own, a shopping trip, a walk or just somewhere you can talk to her. Work out what you want to say first to her, to ensure it doesn't come across the wrong way. Then try to have a heart to heart with her. Ask her if there is anything you are doing to make her mad at you or if she is under some strain you could perhaps help with. Let her know your concerns about your dad.
If you think you would not be able to speak to face to face without getting overly emotional, try writing her a letter. The advantage with this is that you can read it and rewrite any parts that you think could be misinterpreted.
Maybe if she then understands how badly you're being affected by all this, she could talk to your dad, or seek help from someone qualified.
You should not be suffering in this way and you do need to take some form of action to change things.
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I am really sorry cause you are crying! Maybe try to figure out what you are doing so worng then stop doing it so your yelling parents will stop yelling at you and make you cry!
hope you feel better
good luck!!!
Hope i help
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My dad does the same thing, but what you have to understand is just because its stupid to you, doesnt mean its stupid to them. You are probably young and they think they are doing what is best. just try to ignore it.
When he starts to yell, sing a song in your head and jus say yes sir no sir or whatever. Act like your listening but focus on something else.
AND its good that you cry it out and dont keep it bottled up inside.
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