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ex-boyfriend issues
ok i went out with a guy this summer he was pretty much the definition of asshole - i was unexperienced and um, not very assertive, so he ended up using me, cheating on me with AT LEAST 3 girls in a period of 2 months, and smoking right in front of me after i told him over and over how much i hated it. and we hardly even talked. it was the stupidest relationship ever, and unfortunately my first, but at least i learned a lesson. we go to different schools so we hardly hung out when we were going out, and i havent seen him since the day before i broke up with him, we dont talk much... i try to be nice to him if he like messages me or anything but its usually just a "hey whatsup" conversation. anyway now, 4 or 5? months later he decides to talk to me on myspace again. and hes telling me that he misses me and his friends think we should go out again (im not that stupid). he said he really wants to see me again (meaning he really wants to see if he can get with me again) and i dont know what to tell him. i would hang out with him as a friend but it would be sooo awkward cause my friends and i and him are so different. and we hardly talked when we went out so now with this awkward situation it would be worse. i dont know how to tell him i dont want to see him again though. i told him i like another guy. hes not taking the hint. any suggestions?
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I've known many asshole in my day. Tell him you've moved on and you are not interested. You're busy. You have school work. You don't want to be around his cigarette smoke. 2nd hand smoke kills. You should not endanger your health. Nor should you put yourself in a situation where you already know you'll be uncomfortable. Tell him you are now involved with another guy. You don't have to respond to his myspace messages. Simply ignore him. Good thing you go to seperate schools. No need to associate yourself with a guy you know to be an asshole. It's possible he's trying to use you as a booty call but you're not that stupid.
If you ignore his myspace emails hopefully he'll get the hint. If he calls you give him the above excuses.
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I have been in this EXACT situation. I'm someone who believes in forgiveness & second chances. But don't do that to yourself. By accepting him back, he's going to think you're interested..which will only allow him to walk all over you again. You need to stand up & respect yourself by telling him that seeing you again is not a good idea. Don't be one of these dumb girls who settles or makes time for guys like that. There are plenty of other guys out there WITH RESPECT, that would love to hang out with you & treat you better than he ever did.
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don't go out with him it'll give him a idea that you like him.remind him of the crappy way he treated you when yall was going out and tell him you don't wanna be treated like that again.and when he says he changed tell him to prove it
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Well whatever you do dont go out with him. Just tell him that you didnt like the way he treated you when you went out and if he apoligizes just be blunt and tell him your not intrested and you dont want to be hurt. He did it once and chaces are he will do it again
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