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5'2" and 173 pounds- help me please.
I've been fat my whole life- exept for a 1-week period when I was 11. My weight makes me feel sad, unwanted, unloved, depressed, worthless, and basically a failure as a person. I'm 14 now. I've considered suicide so many times.
I'm actually a shapely person (meaning i'm close to a bottomheavy hourglass- not a pear or apple) so I feel liek I look "fine" most of the time... but ultimately i feel like a complete fatass.
The thing is- I can't stick to a diet and keep the weight off for more than about 3 weeks. I was 160 in september- but I gained it back without even trying.
I've been all the way up to 183.
I take 4 dance classes and I work out on my elliptical trainer/treadmill as often as I can (usually about 2-4 times per week). I really don't even eat that much at all.
I DO NOT eat junk food or candy-type things.
why am I fat? is it because I'm negative and depressed?
ps: i'm pretty (facial features, skin/hair) but i don't feel pretty because i'm fat.
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Hi. I can completely relate to your situation. At my highest point, (and lowest, if you think about it), I was 5'1" and 195 lbs.
So how did I break out of this rut? I stopped being negative (at least as much as I could; it's still difficult) and growing four inches didn't hurt. Ultimately, it was an attitude change. I'm still not happy with my weight, but it's improving. Think what you DO like about yourself and what your body can do. It can dance, walk, sing, talk, laugh, etc.
Now, get into a "my body is healthy, I have two legs, two arms, and I'm happy" mindset. Suicide is NOT the answer. If you continue to feel depressed and down on yourself all the time, please get treatment. I've seen depression take its toll and I don't want it to happen to anyone else.
So. Dance and running on the elliptical are good. Try to run 5 times a week for at least 20 minutes at a time. It may seem like a lot now, but soon it'll get a lot easier. Also try including other exercises, like crunches, situps, pushups, pilates, et cetera. Walking is great too- and easier on your joints than running. Walk with a friend; it's a LOT more fun.
Follow a healthy eating plan. Go here:
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It'll tell you daily calorie needs and such. To lose weight, cut out 200-300 calories a day (out of what you'd have to eat to maintain your weight) Don't go under 1500. Otherwise, your body thinks it's starving, and holds onto more energy than it needs to. Which translates to more fat storage and less weight loss.
I know this works. Why? I've lost 35lbs so far. I'll also tell you where I went wrong.
1. Don't go overboard cutting calories. I pretty much stopped eating a couple months ago. My mindset was, Oh I've lost 10 lbs by cutting 300 calories, I'll double that. Then I cut even more. It doesn't work like that; you need to give your body fuel.
2. Don't obsess over the scale. Weigh yourself twice a week, tops. At the same time everyday, wearing the same clothes. Not exact, but don't weigh yourself early morning in PJ's one day and in three sweaters after dinner the next time, you know?
3. Don't get discouraged if you gain a few pounds back. Especially being a girl, your weight fluctuates constantly. It's normal; it's expected to happen. Plus, you can lose inches, but gain a pound or two- go by how your clothes fit & the size of your waist/hips/arms/thighs too, not just what the scale says.
Good luck with everything! If you want more ideas/help/whatever, ask me to my inbox or IM me.
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okay, first of all, stop calling yourself fat. that just lowers your self esteem right off the back. you need to see yourself as having a shape. something a lot of skinny people dont have. secondly, diet and exercise are good things to do when your like 30 or something. your 14, you are growing still. your developing, your body is taking on new things. the only logical reason i can thing of for you being shapely is that your metabolism is just a little slower and you cant help that. you are doing all the right things now by staying away from junk food and stuff. just be happy with who you are and the shape you have. be so proud of it. hope i helped.
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Your 14 your still growing.
Dont diet.
Another thing dont eat when your stressed It helps you gain weight.
Go out and do something active that you enjoy, dont think of it as exercise think of it as having fun!
Also when your eating meals sit at a table, and dont watch tv or listen to music, dont rush the meal, and when your body is telling you your full stop eating, this way you eat less eating and not storing as much fat as you would if you eat until your stuffed.
Trust me it DOES work just give it a few months weight
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i don't know if you've heard of this but SUICIDE is NOT the answer. although you say u don't eat alot and you don't eat junk food or candy there are still things that can screw up or body. like food that contain alot of oil.and in order to stay healthy you should at least excercise 20-30 mins a day and if you wana do more then hey go for it!!maybe every day? if you take a car or something to the nearest store or your nieghbors house then i suggest you can walk or ride a bike ...hope i helped!!
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