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my best friend keeps bailing on me.
okay, me & my best friend have been friends since 7th grade. we're like sisters cause our bond is so strong. well we haven't hung out in a while because her mom all of a sudden hates me for nothing, so we haven't been able to chill for a little while. well we were supposed to go to a concert together on sunday [the 18th]. her dad said she could go, her mom said she couldn't. then her dad said that she couldn't go because he didn't wanna hear her mom's shit. [her parents are seperated]. anyways, i thought well "okay, i'll find someone else to go with." i found someone else, but the night before the concert my "bff" says "oh babe, we're gonna hang out tonight & whatever." and her dad said she could, but then she said she wasn't feeling well so she wasn't gonna come. bailage NUMBER ONE.
now she told me "babe i promise we'll hang out next week! even if they say no, nothing's stopping me from spending time with you! i miss hanging out!" cause we used to hang out like everyday. i just texted her a little bit ago asking her what she was doing tonight but she texted back saying her niece broke her arm so she has to take care of her. maybe i'm wrong, but since she's not the mother or the caretaker of the child, shouldn't be living her teenage life? she's 15 and she's had to grow up too fast because her sister doesn't know how to have kids & take care of them too. she just plops them in front of a tv or drops them off somewhere & then totally doesn't take care of them. she leaves it to her little sister [my bff.] i'm sick of never being able to hang out with her anymore, and she promised me.
we talked about this last time she couldn't hang out, and she promised, so now what? she has to stay home & take care of her neice, so now i've got nothing to do, and it's another week of not seeing my best friend. NICE. so what do i do? i don't wanna be mad at her, but i feel i have no choice. she keeps bailing or something "comes up." what do i do?
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Im so sorry that you are going through this. I know how important it is to have a bestfriend and always hanging out together. If her mom hates you and there always be some reason why she can't hang out with you don't make any plans with her even though you do want to hang out with her. Its making you feel bad the way things are between you all and I know you will feel bad if you stop talking to her. but try to found someone else to hang out with. You don't have to stop being her friend but just don't make any plans with her or don't think that you all really going to hang when she say that you all going to. I hope this helps
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first of all you should talk to her mom and ask her why she hate you and you should try to tell your best friend to tell her sister she should start taking care of her own kids. Also, since yall best friends you should find a time and day to hang out so yall can spend more time together.
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i think you really just need to talk about it with her. tell her ow you feel and you don't like feeling like that. explain how important your friendship is with her and you really don't want to loose her as a friend. maybe there is something going on that she just hasn't told you about. try to find out. tell her that you're there if she needs to talk.
hope i helped.
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