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Did I do the right thing? What do I do now?
A girl who I thought was my best friend, Sarah, has been talking about my other best friend, Amanda, alot lately and I got so tired of listening to it, so I told Amanda everything. Sarah was acting like a jerk to her and Amanda wanted to know why, so it's not like I just told her to get them in a fight. Sarah had called her a bitch, a slut, and told me that she hated her because she always says she can't come over because she is busy. I honestly thought that was no reason to call her those things. Also, she had been purposely leaving Amanda out and making fun of her. She had said alot of other bad things about her too, but I don't feel like listing everything and I didn't tell her them because I knew she would get too upset. I told Amanda almost everything today and in return, she began telling me what all she has been saying about me behind my back. Sarah had said the same thing about both of us, including all of her other "friends." On myspace, Sarah's profile says, "If you're mad at me, get over it," just talking to everyone in general and plus every other time I've gotten mad at her for something, she turns everything around and blames me. So, I know I can't talk to her about any of this. What should I do? Did I do the right thing by telling Sarah?
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Obviously Sarah is not a friend. She has her own self esteem issues and she needs to take care of that. But in the mean time, I would ignore her and prevent from talking to her.
-AJ
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well i dont know if its the right thing to do but its pretty much what any girl would do. it seems like sara is a backstabber. no offence- but i wouldnt want to be friends with her since she talks crap about everyone. and eventually thats all going to catch up to her and bite her in the ass if you understand what im saying.ha. but really, sara said those things about her for a stupid reason and your right, there is no reason to call her that stuff. if i were you i would talk to sara about this.. and if you have before (in a similar situation) about her backstabbing you (i know thats not the reason but i would do that) then i would stop spending your time with her because shes not a true friend if shes saying that. especailly if you have talk to her about her backstabbing beofre and she told you that she would stop talking about you.
and if i were you.... and im trying to do this myself because this helps SOO much not causing fights. is (sorry i just feel like listing):
- if someone is talking about another person stop the person who is talking about them and say something like "shes my friend and im not ganna talk about her so.. yeah anyways..." or like "sorry but i dont talk about people behind there backs" say it in a kind way tho but serouis to so they dont think that your being rude to them and so that they know your serouis. that way the person that they are talking about cant say that you have ever talked about them because you stop the whole thing.
-also dont tell the other person that someone was talking about them. because if you do then the person who was talking about them will get mad at YOU. BBUTTTTTTTTTTTtt if you listen to the first bullet then you wont have anything to tell the person that was getting talked about the things someone was saying about them. get it?
- and DONT TALK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE. that will just cause problems because who never know whos ganna tell the other person.
so basically if follow those three things.. and youll be known as a good trustful friend. and people will like you more.
hope i helped.
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I think you did sorta the right thing that girl is not a true friend and shes the BITCH!! I dont think she is a friend to talk smack to you and cant back it up to your other friend if she still remains to talk about you or her i think you should kick her dirty nasty ass because friends like her is nothing but backstabbers i think you did a awesome job to tell your bff because if she found out and then found out you knew she would be mad at you and then both them would have been mad at you and calling you a bitch your a good friend and that bitch would have been walkin with 3 feet 2 in her shoes walkin in 1 in her ass
sorry for all the cursing but she is a backstabbing ass bitch who you should drop asap!!!
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i think you did do the right thing. whenever someone is attacking a lot of people like that in the same way, it just means they're insecure about themselves and THEY are the one with the problem, not you or whoever else she was making comments about. there isn't much you can do unless you figure out if you still want to be friends with sarah or not. think about if she can or wants to change and stop making those comments; part of being a true friend is accepting and loving people for who they are, and a good friend will never insult you behind your back. that's something nobody can tell you--you've got to figure it out on your own. good luck!
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