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I'm nearly 16 and I've never been kissed!
Hi, can anyone help me, I'm turning 16 in a few months and I've never even been on a date!
I feel so pathetic, no boys ever even smiled at me!
I have loads of friends (mostly girls) and they tell
me I'm pretty, but I think they just feel sorry for me. Does anyone have any advice (I'm a girl by the way) even if I do get a boyfriend now, he'd probably be into much more serious stuff than I'm ready for.
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OMG you just pretty much summed up my life. But dont worry about it, i used to be all stressed over it, but i'd rather wait for the right guy. (i know thats annoying to hear) but there are guys that like me...but i dont want to date them b/c i wouldnt be happy) and you shoudl do the same. Its no big deal to not have a boyfriend, just have fun with your friends. And never let a guy pressure you into doing more than your ready for. You dont want to grow up regretting what you did in high school (like having sex, or oral sex etc). Just dont think about it. It WILL happen for you...and if it take until college to find the right boyfriend...then so be it.
But...you can also just hang out around guys more and maybe, if you have friends at other schools, you can get introduced to guys at other schools...because sometimes you just need to meet new people.
I hope this helps..and good luck!!
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Well advice is to be flirty around the guys they like that and for your friends you should not worry what your friends think about you cause if you are not the best looking person they will fill sorry for you and lie to you so flirt around guys and then get to know some of them and just go from there. Just relax and have fun I hope this helps.
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Dear "never been kissed",
I you feel pathetic that's how people will feel about you too. I know it's a cleche but you have to love yourself before anyone else will-- trust me I learned that the hard way. The first thing you have to do is stop assuming that your friends are telling you your pretty because they feel sorry for you. If they're really your friends they wouldn't lie to you. Just learn to take a compliment and you have to really believe it! Hearing something enough times you learn to believe it and that includes what you say to yourself so stop telling yourself your pathetic it won't help your situation in any way.
The best way to get a guys attention is to carry yourself like your worth a million dollars(because your worth way more then that). Smile at everyone you see, not just the boys, they notice. Even if they don't smile back the first, second or even third time-- they will eventually and they'll remember you.
Your second problem was that your worried the guys are all ready for a lot more then you. Well honey get that idea out of yourhead right now! Boys, though they act like they're on top on the world, are really just as nervous as you are. Most guys your age don't have any experience with girls or kissing either. There will always be those couple of guys that have gone the whole nine yards already but trust me you want to stay far far away from them anyways. That kind of behavior show that they're really insecure and don't have any respect for themself or the girls they're doing that stuff with. To them it's just a show, a competition even. You don't need that in your life.
The best advice I could give you is just to be yourself and not worry about what your friends are doing or what anyone thinks of you. Guys like girls who feel comfortable in their own skin and if your friends are right(and I'm sure they are) you are in beautiful skin and have nothing to worry about.
Oh and most people your age, girls and boys, haven't been kissed. I didn't get kissed until I was almost 18! And I don't regret the wait at all, because when it finally happened it was with a guy that I really cared about.
You want to always remember your first kiss as something happy and beautiful and romantic-- you don't want to regret it later by rushing it with the wrong guy.
Good luck! and if you need any more help feel free to e-mail me at AskKambrey@yahoo.com
~Kambrey
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dont worry about it, youll find mr. right some day. dont rush into anything if youre not ready for it. ill be 15 on monday and i havent been kissed or on a date yet either. and most of my friends havent been kissed yet. i havent had a real boyfriend since 7thgrade and im in ninth grade. dont worry, youll find him!
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Seriously don't worry about it because for everyone their "special someone" comes at different times in peoples' lives. For some, they come around in their teens, and some not until they hit 20. It does hurt feeling a little isolated about it. And it doesn't necessarily mean you are ugly. In fact it's great your friends tell you you're pretty. Good encouragement!! Keep that self-esteem up and you'll get a guy in no time.
But try socializing with guys more. It does seem awkward, believe me! But guys adore girls with high self-esteem, and feeling good about themselves. So talk to some guys, and look great.
And if you do a boyfriend soon, you say "he probably would be into much more serious stuff than I am ready for." That does happen in some cases, but if you are really interested in a relationship, you got to be ready for what the relationship gets into. In other words, be prepared for what's to come in a relationship. If a guy wants to do something you aren't comfortable with, he is not the guy for you. Settle with guys who you think are wonderful people, and get to know them more.
Don't give up because there's somebody out there for everyone! =]
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well mayb try to flirt with guyz more.....or maybe its just because the guys your around are so used to you like try to meet people in different grades or schools if you're pretty they will like you would be helpful if you would show a picture of you like do u have a myspace or anything ?? cuz i can tell you if you're pretty and i bet you are
if you're friends just bring stuff up and say you look pretty out of knowhere then you defiately are. But if you're asking them am i pretty than they might lie but it sounds to me that they are serious.
hope this helps !!
x3 kaylee
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