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convincing my dad to let my bf stay at our house.
this might get confusing. ive been dating the same guy for almost three years. i'm a junior in high school and he's a senior. him and i have gotten into fights where i cry a lot, which makes my parents like his less, but something bad happened to him monday night. his dad beat him and he left his house to go to wisconsin where his aunt lives. (his parents are divorced btw), but his mom won't let him go back to his dad's house, so he can't finish school here in IL if he can't find somewhere to stay here by this sunday. he would have to go to school at his moms house in indiana.
this is where the conflict comes in.. i'm trying to think of ways to convince my dad of letting him stay at our house at least for a little while. he'll be graduating in less than 3 months, and then going to college. my mom said if it were up to her, he'd be able to stay, but it's my dad that i'm worried about. so what are things i could say to convince my dad? he would not get in the way of any regular activity, he'd follow regular curfew rules, etc. someone help me!!
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You and your mom are up for it right? The both of you should go up to him at the same time and talk to your dad. Tell him that its not just to lose your boyfriend its for his education here. And tell him he won't get in the way of regular activities and he'd follow curfew rules. And tell him that his family is having problems right now and he really needs a place to stay. I hope everything goes well for you!
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I would be honest with your father and tell him that your boyfriend's father wailed the s--t out of him and that he left to seek refuge with his aunt just for the weekend.
Tell him she cannot take care of him and would have to leave the state to live with his mother making it so he can no longer be with you or any of the friends and family he has known his entire life.
Tell him that your mother is open to the idea of letting him stay at your house with rules about sleeping quarters, curfews, and that you would not be having sex. Also tell him that your boyfriend would contribute (whatever he could) money for food and rent. That last part should have things leaning in your favor.
Ask your father to chat with your mother, the aunt and his mother about what is happening with the family situation and who legally has custody of him. Let the adults figure it out after you approach them and don't push. They'll be able to figure it out before Sunday.
One thing you might want to do is talk to your mother and the two of you approach your father at the same time. It would help a lot here and cut down the time for an answer as dad has to consult mom anyway. Might as well clue him in on what the two of you already know and just be honest and ask him.
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try explaining to your dad that it is not for you & him to have a good ol' time in your house, but is for his safety & his education. obviously since he's graduating soon, he should be able to finish out his senior year. also, maybe your mom can help you convince your dad. i mean, your dad has a point since he is your boyfriend and all, but just explain that as long as your bf stays, your dad can make all the rules about where he sleeps, what happens while hes staying there, etc. it is about your bf being safe & happy. as long as you be honest & explain he might let him.
-hope that helped!♥
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