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friendship
okay. to start off, i'm a 15/f freshman in highschool. i have 2 best friends, we'll call them l and p... basically we're like a little group that does everything together and is never separated. i've been friends with p since like kindergarden and with l since about 4th grade. then in middle school we kinda distinguised ourselves as a little group. like you know how people make up a little name like car and say their names are carrie, ashley and rebecca or something... yeah that's what my friends and i made up with our names. so that's our little thing but anyway that's not the point...
the point is that now that we've started highschool, my friend p has started to, change? i mean obviously people are gonna change...idk. ok. me and l are pretty shy. p is shy too but not as much as us. p is doing sports all seasons and has made friends through that. l and i aren't doing any sports or clubs right now. well like i wanna do volleyball in the fall but that would be sophomore year... so yeah, i know i should do something but i think it's too late...
from thursday to tuesday, p went on a trip to florida with her band classes & like the marching band. l and i didn't go. (we don't do band) ok so anyway, basically every day she was texting and calling me. at first i didn't mind, but then l brought it up to me that she didn't text or call her at all. l was getting mad and talking soo much about p behind her back, i kinda just went along with it b/c i know if i was l i would feel the same way. k so at first i didn't mind hearing from p, but then she started becoming a little...idk, conceited? she was saying how she was hanging out with 11 guys, and some girls..including one guy who i kinda like, and of course she now has a crush on.
p finally texted l back after a while, and l had said something like, are you too cool now or did you fall off the face of the earth? (because she didnt hear from her) and p texted back like, yeah i am too cool now im hanging out with 11 guys hahaha jk. obviously a part of her wasn't kidding though.
and then like l gets all pissed and like i feel the same way but i know if i was in p's position i would probably be really ecstatic too. i really don't know what my question is but like, what should i do? i always get stuck in the middle of these things, and l always has to say something behind p's back whenever p does something she doesnt like. i understand l sometimes but most of the time i really don\'t wanna hear her talking about her. so what should i do? we're fine now in school and everything but i'm just sick of this.
plus i've know them forever and my shyness doesn't help. they are my only 2 friends i can be my true self around. i know i need to make new friends but. i wish i could start over freshman year =\ ok so i guess my question is, what should i do about my friends? should i say something to them about this? and also how can i break out of my shyness? thank you so much if you read all of this. i'm soo sorry about the length.
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wow I can totally relate to you.
I am a freshman too and in 7th grade, I was really shy. I'm not sure really how I was able to change, but I became friends with someone very unusual from what I was used to. she was crazy and fun and you know what? She rubbed off on me and I became more of an outgoing person! So maybe you need to reach out to some new people. As far as your friend talking to you, and not your other friend, that is just her personal choice. Maybe she finds you easier to talk to. And of course you should say something to them. Friends need to talk, and you can't keep your feeling bottled up. But as far as the friend doing different activities thing, maybe you are just groing apart and are developing seperate interests. Hope I helped.
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Don't worry about the length I have seen A LOT LONGER. Well anyways you should talk to your friends about your problem let them know how you feel and hopefully they will understand how you feel and they will if they are true friends. But the shyness thing ok well you need to open up more open up to more people talk to other people get to know them. I hope this helps if you have anymore questions leave me a message in my inbox or how bout you leave that message in this Columnist her screen name is chica_chick666 she is the best and can really help she does not turn down a question and can really help she is my girlfriend she is even listed on my colomn under favorite Columnists she is the only one on my list so give it a try. Hope that helps. Tell me how it goes.
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ok people will change in primary school or what its called in america you find your friends in "kindergarden" and they dont really change because you mkae your friends and you dont change but when you hit secondary school you find more peopler with similar interests and everything changes if you stay the same little girl from primary it can seem a little repetative many people grow up and move onwards but her saying how u didnt text is her insecurity of needing her original friends to back her up.
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