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valentines day dance and racism
my cousin is having a valentines day dance and i want my boyfriend to come with me but the problem is is that iam white and my boyfriend is black and everybody in my family is racist and iam afraid if i invite my boyfriend to the dance my family won't approve and be mean and say horrible things to him and me like they did to my mom when she married my stepdad becouse he wa black but i really want him to come becouse i don't get to see him outside of school what should i do?
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I think that your family needs to learn to accept the fact that you have your own opinion and your own life. My dads side of the family is the same way i didnt really know know my dad until i was around 10 and by then my mom had already raised me a totally different way then what he wanted and eventually he had to accept that.
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You should deffintly bring your boyfriend, if your family says anything they obviously don't have respect for you and your decsions. It's is up to you who you date and your family should respect that. Being black is not different then white, there is no reason that you should not be able to date him because of his skin color. I went through the same thing basically, I brought him around and my family respected my decsion, yours should too.
I hope I helped.
good luck with your family...
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Well if u cant aprociate my advice fine, I take it back.
By the way? Are there any other options?
I dont think so. U r ungratefull.
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Before you bring your bf over, you should consult with your family and say that[ and make it damn clear] you don't want ANY racist remarks/jokes/comments of any sort and you expect them to treat him just as he was a part of the family. Tell to ignore his race because he's a person just like them.
Then explain to your bf how your family is racist and you're very offended by that but you still really want to bring him home. Tell him that he doesn't have to go if he will feel uncomfortable being around racist...but make sure that he knows before he gets crowded with racists.
Trust me...you want to make it very clear to him and your family your points because racist comments and whatnot REALLY hurt.
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