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Why an i always the unnoticed one?
I'm always unnoticed, no matter what group I'm in. My friends in my group now sometimes don't even realize I'm there, and i really feel like they dont care about me or dont want to hang out with me. How can i be noticed, and make people smile, and just flat out like me? It seems like no one in my group thinks of me as a good friend besides maybe 2 people. It makes me really sad and i'm not confident or loud, but thats what i really want to be. How can i do that? How can i make people notice me? thanks..
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you n need to be true to yourself...just start speaking your thoughts and embrace your individuality and what makes you unique...maybe being loud isnt who you are...and theres nothing wrong with that...just start saying your opinion whenever you have one...or just whats on your mind..its probably not that they dont like you its just that since you dont say much they dont really know what to say to you or know you enough to bond with you..so show them who you really are..it doesnt mean you have to be loud..unless that turns out to be who you are..but just be yourself...
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You dont neccesarily have to be loud to have fun just make jokes. Have agood time without looking like you are trying too hard or anything. They are your friends im sure they love u and appreciate you. All you have to do is learn to shine in your own way. Make your own light and just incorporate yourself with the group invite them over or something.
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I have the exact same problem. I've been in so many different groups of friends, I can't even remember them all. I'm constantly changing friends, because whoever I hang out with, I just feel like I don't belong. Or more like, I simply don't belong with other people.
I'm not sure if this is along the lines of what you're feeling, but if it is, maybe you just have to realize that you're a very independent person that doesn't need a million other people to complete them. Don't be sad! Be happy that you don't need people to control your life. Some people actually do, they can't function without being under the control of others.
Now, everyone should have a few close friends. When you have friends, you should be able to be yourself around them instead of trying to put on a huge show and being the center of attention. So I'm sorry if I've been rambling on, but here's my advice, try to make your group notice you by sugguesting fun things to do. Maybe if you try to plan some activities for your group of friends, they will appreciate you more. organize a fun trip to the movies, the mall, a rollerskating place, a miniature golf place, or a crazy random place! This should get their attention.
Also, speak up a little more. Friends should have good communication so try starting up the conversations. You can gossip, or tell them some of your experiences. (Example: "Hey, this is random but a few weeks ago....) Tell them funny or scary experiences you've had, and encourage them to join in by saying, "How about you guys?"
Bottom line is, you should try to be yourself with your friends, but have a little fun. If they're really your friends, they will like you for who you are. If you have at least ONE friend who supports you this way, thats great. Sometimes all you need is one or two friends to be happy. I know that I don't have a bajillion friends, mainly because I just don't want many friends. If you realize that these girls aren't treating you well, it might be time to slowly drift apart from the group and find some better people to hang out with.
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