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Fighting ?
Me and my sister are both teenage girls, 15 and 16. We butt heads on a daily basis. We fight at least twice a day, and by fight I mean physically and definitely emotionally. We've physcially fought so badly that we leave bruises, marks and scratches on each other. Emotionally is the worst though. She has no idea that everything she says to me/calls me hurts me so badly. As my older sister everyone expects us to fight, but this type of fighting is over the line. We fight twice a day, at least!
We're past the point of working it out, our parents have tried everything. And honestly I'm sick of crying everyday.
Our fighting is literally making my parents life hell and tearing their marriage apart. Not only that but it's making my life hell too.
What do I do? And please don't say ignore her, that NEVER works.
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At some point, if you don't like what is happening, you simply have to change.
That means leaving the room before a fight starts. That means choosing to stop the fight by letting her win. That means talking about your desire to not fight. That means not giving into your angry and frustration.
And all that is really hard work. Even harder work if she wants to keep fighting.
But there are no real tricks to it doing it. You just need to be truly dedicated to not letting arguments escalate. You have to be willing to sacrifice your own pride to make things better.
A good place to start might be to apologize, to your parents and to your sister. God knows you aren’t blameless in this. Start by saying you are sorry for your part and this, telling them you want it to change and ask for their help in fixing it.
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Stay in your room all day & ignore her. Unless you share rooms. See a family couselor, and a special counselor for just you.
♥T!NA
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To work a problem with someone I always try to spend as much time with them as possible. So spending time with your sister and only her will make you guys have more of a connection. For example, go shopping, go out to eat, go to a carnival or a festival. Or just simply try to talk to her and tell her everything and how you feel.
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