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Parental Issues
I'm 13, and my mom and dad are total assholes. My mom is a drug addict who is always in jail, and my dad does pot. My mom is currently out of jail, but I still don't want to associate with her. I don't even talk to my dad. My dad visits every so often and I go to my room, because my brother still wants to see him (he's younger and still has that 'my-dad's-the-best-and-he's-superman' view) My aunt and uncle think its rude and hateful that I don't think my mom is going to to quit drugs and that I refuse to talk to her. But she has been doing drugs for 6 years (7 on the 23rd) and I used to think she was going to quit, but I don't anymore. I'm tired of opening up and letting her in, when all she does is break me again. I don't know if this is wrong or not, do you think it is?
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It's not. Your mom lost all the trust you had in her, and it takes a long time to get it back. In this case, neither her & your father are getting your trust back.
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Trust is earned. It is not something that you owe your mother just because she's your mother. She had your trust when you were 6 years old and she decided that doing drugs was more important than taking care of her kids. That being said, I think it would be nice if you were to support your mom's efforts to get clean. It would be sweet and giving if you were to speak with her about the weather, television shows, etc. and it would feel better, I'm sure if you didn't talk to her about anything personal. Since your mom is in the legal system so often, has anyone offered you counseling? I think that you probably could use a social worker or counselor who can help you define your boundaries. That might help you to protect yourself while appearing more compassionate to your parents. From what you have said, though, you have every right to be angry.
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You know what is best for you. In an ideal world, you would have a wonderful relationship with your mom and she would be sober. But if it is really too painful, don't.
All the best,
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