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you answered my question
i just read your reply to my question about the teenagers dringing me nuts. To further explain, my 24 yr. old dau is married and living on her own,not with us, my 18 yr. old had gone to stay with her for 1 week,then dissappeared back to the street, thats where she is now,staying with different crack dealers. She stays hid well, I ride the streets looking here last at nite, I cant sleep. I had found a treatment place for her and they were going to take her today but shes gone again, she called her sister and told her she wasnt ready to be helped. Shes lost 30 lbs, nasty, same clothes, etc... this is killin me. I tried to have her committed and the magistrate wouldnt let me, she said I have to go through mental health, and they said they dont know her, So its a no win situation. Her dad is not in the picture, all my relatives are deceased, except my 82 yr. old dad.I guess I have to leave it alone?
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Regrettably, leaving it alone may be your only choice. She is, in her own words, not ready to be helped - and it's hard enough for someone to get sober and cleaned up when they want to, let alone when they don't.
All you can do at this point is tell her (the 18-yr-old) to come home when she's ready to get better, but not before. Once again, I'm not an expert or experienced in such matters, but that's how I see it.
Stop driving the streets at night looking for her; you should be at home with your youngest daughter in the middle of the night, or one day you'll be looking for her too. You need to concentrate on the people you can help. Hopefully, one day your middle daughter will be one of them, but until she's ready to accept help, all that you can give will go for nothing - until you have nothing left.
You only have so much power to help people. Save it for those who you can help. The harsh reality is that there is nothing you can do to make your 18-yr-old "see the light"; she will have to see it herself. It is true that if you let her go, she may die. But there is also nothing you can do to prevent it, except to give her a safety net that she must choose to use when the time comes.
All my best wishes. I hope I have helped.
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