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keeping calm
Do any of you have realyl good strategies to keeping calm? I get mad a lot and when I get ultimately mad I can't take it anymore and just burst out crying!
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The thing i do is go and talk to one of may friend about what is going on in there life. That way i forget what ever i was upset with and consentrate on what they need. Thats the reason i started my advicenator. You can always think about something that happened to say and made you smile =) hope i helped.
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Hey. Before getting really upset just think of something really funny like the person you're mad at wearing a leprechaun costume and doing a little jig. Sometimes I do this and it really helps. Just ignore whatever it is and think of something like this. Or you can squeeze your hands together and just think of nothingness. The anger should pass because anger normally passes by very quickly. Or as the other person (if it's a person) is going on and on just block it out and think of them going blah blah blah. I mean I'm not trying to tell you to completely ignore people but if the other option is screaming at them it's better with these options. Also, you can think of how hurt they will be if they made you this upset. I really hope that all of these options helped and good luck! =)
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omg i have the same thing. personally i would say just burst if you get mad ahah. like screammmmmmmmmmmmmmmm but that woudlnt solve anything now would it? i usually hold it in..then i go and take a nice hot bath and cry my eyes out. oh i just read your additional info, well then i guess tell the person theyre pissing you off. OR if you dont want them to know your mad, just ignore them for a while and sing one of your favourite songs in your head. ORrr you could also "think happy thoughts"..or you could change the subject and talk about something less annoying. trust mee, i have anger problems too and i burst ALL the time, over little things, i hope any of these helped.
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Go with what the columnist below me said; taking deep breaths can get you calm.
Also, counting to ten can get the frustration naturally out. If you close your eyes, take a deep breath, and count to ten, your anger will be released. If you need more time, count to 20. Some times counting a bit more is needed.
Talk to someone when you are under stress, too. Talking to someone can get the anger out. Try getting a counselor or maybe just try talking to a friend when something (or someone) upsets you.
Meditate! Great way to release stress and anger out of you. It takes a few times to make it work, but all you need to do is take deep breaths, and light aromatherapy candles around you (you can find these anywhere you go), close your eyes, and dream of being somewhere relieving like a beach or a waterfall, and just imagine only yourself there.
But avoid imagining of hurting someone or something, because that can just give you ideas. You don't want that.
Hope I helped =]
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well what about just logically confront the person and debating your point while seeing someone elses point doesnt mean you have to agree with the opposing side. talk it out with someone and tell people how there making you feel and why. think about whats really making you mad. if you absolutely have no control over it and dont understand it then maybe you should see a doctor or counselor to see if theres a medical or deeper reason for it.
if its something serious id suggest anger management classes but if not maybe you just need a release like writing or somekind of art or other form of expression that way you can turn it into something beautiful. or you could just go into a room and try to reason with your self and take deep breaths or you can get some peaceful music and meditate and even light incense which ever would be soothing to you.you could also try those stress ball that you can squeeze when you get angry or by a punching bag or go to a gym.
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i can relate soo much to this so i have a lot for u!!
- make a stress ball outta 2 small ballons put them together and fill it wil flour so instead of liek hitting something sqeeze it really hard ;]
-listen to music that relates to the mood your in
-talk to someone who u trust
-go to therapy once a week it helps.
-breath in for 6 seconds and out for 8
-try to let things roll
-when you know somethings gunna bug you walk away & stay away for the rest of the day
i have several more so if you want more leave one in my inbox! askxbrooke
i hope i helped!!!!
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The best advice I can give you is; take deep breaths! That is so important. If it's a certain someone making you upset, leave the area he/or she is in and go into a room by yourself. Calm down in there and don't go out until you are under control. Screaming or hitting a pillow could work too, but that will also make a pretty big scene & we don't want that. Try and relax. Good luck!
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