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okay i love my boyfriend of 9 months more than anything in the entire world. theres just one problem, he gets high all the time. he says its impossible for him to stop and i shouldnt make him choose. i know he might sound like an asshole but other than that he's perfect for me. but constantly worrying about him is really starting to upset me.
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I had a boyfriend like this, and i really liked him. So I asked him to stop doing it around me. We ended up breaking up because he acted like his weed was more important.
You might love this guy but its up to you to make this decision. Weed is addictive. But try to see if you can get him to smoke less and less.
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well, i have a few friends that are high all the time as well, and if you`ve hung around him while he`s high or really got his opinion about doing it, you know it probably is really hard for him to stop. either that, or he really doesn`t want to. for this reason, i don`t think you should ask him to stop. the best thing you can do is ask him to do it less. let him know that you are worried, but don`t make him choose. try to get him to cut down. also, if you haven`t been with him when he is high, you should talk him into taking you along, just to see what they do when they are high. if he`s like my friends, you really don`t need to worry about him. also, if you really do worry about him, you should talk to his friends. the only reason i don`t worry about my guys is because one of them is straight edge and he watches out for them. you should talk them into having one person stay sober to watch out for them when they are high.
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Nothing is impossible to stop..its that he doesnt want too which makes him it impossible to stop...you can keep worrying about him but the worrying isnt going to stop until you make him make the choice it either his love for you or love for drugs...and if you and your boyfriend are meant to be he will ask you to help him quit..otherwise if he choses pot over you that is someone you do not want to be with because his life going down into a dark deep spiral
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What your boyfriend said is wrong in two ways.
Number one, yes, it IS possible to stop getting high. However, if he doesn't put forth the effort and doesn't want to, he won't stop. That holds true for any addiction, including smoking and alcoholism.
Number two, he says that you shouldn't make him choose. He knows good and well that you care about him and want him to stop. Ask yourself this: If he keeps doing the drugs, even though he knows that I worry about him, does the high mean more to him than our relationship does?
I'm not saying that he doesn't care about you; He probably does. But understand that drug addictions can take over the lives of the victim, and affects everyone the victim loves and cares about.
Encourage him to get help, and if he doesn't, you definitely need to reconsider your relationship with him. You may say that this guy is perfect for you, but you deserve someone who appreciates the fact that you care for him, not someone who puts drugs before you.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave another one in my inbox!
-Manders
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