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going cold turkey
My boyfriend of almost two years dumped me a week ago. We haven’t spoken since. I was sort of expecting it so all he said was “I can’t do this anymore. I’ve had one foot out the door for months.” I didn’t want to cry in front of him or get angry, so I just told him he could leave, and he pretty much ran out.
Now, I know I want him back. I know I miss him. I feel like most of our problems existed entirely in his head, but I do accept that it is over and there is no way we are getting back together. I’m a little confused though. I wish I’d listened to more of his explanation so I knew just what he was thinking (and that he doesn’t hate me, have no respect for me or think I’m a total idiot... all those nice things you are supposed to reassure someone of when you dump them.)
Should I e-mail him and ask for his reasons? Just to put my mind at ease. I’m not sure he could actually say anything that would make it easier... Or should I just let it go and keep on not speaking to him at all?
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Well, I think you are NEVER sure if it's really over. Email him or whatever is the best way for you to contact him. Ask him the reasons ... Explain to him that you are confused. If you love him and you really care about him be consistent. He can't just have no feelings after two years.
But If he made it clear it was over. Forget him.. I'm pretty sure you are a very prety girl on the inside and out. And you can find someone that you deserve that will treat you like a princess and you are gonna be hard to leave.
But for a while be single enjoy it.. You have the rest of your life to be in a commitment. Have fun while you can I mean think of all the cute guys out their that you can flirt with now. :]]]
well i hope I helpd - Delicious
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We'll are you saying you want to get back together? i mean you don't have to be boyfriend and girlfriend just to hang out do you? I no he must of broken your heart then, but its over . Bu t you can always still be friends. you just can't kiss him everytime you want to. and im srry. i hope i can help you some more!
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hey, okay well what i would do would be to email him. ask him his reasons for breaking it off. but at the same time let him know that you have the understanding that the relationship is completly over and that you respect that. but that you are jsut a little confused on what his reasons are.
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Let it go. Don't speak to him and ignore him. It'll make everything a lot easier. Maybe even try looking at other guys. Not dating, but just looking. Being single is a lot of fun. Just have a good time with it.
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2 years is a long time to be with someone and suddenly not having them in your life is a huge change. Usually when im going through a breakup i take some time to cry it all out, eat alot of icecream and watch sad movies, then i have a sleepover with my friends and go shopping. It might take some time to get over him but being single isnt the end of the world. Think of positives like you can flirt with whoever you want! Or you could end up finding someone fantastic and even better than your ex. Even if happiness doesnt find you straight away dont give up =] Just keep thinking positives and you'll start to feel better. Asking for reasons isnt really going to help now and you'll just think of ways you would have solved your problems and you'll just think its your fault even though its not. Move on and live you life and have fun!! Hope you feel better soon =] Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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Of course you feel like you want him back. He was a big part of your life. But asking for reasons probably not a good idea. I asked my last boyfriend why, and he said it was because of my Dad. Reasons just make you madder.
The best advice I can give you is to cry a little, throw things(superballs are good, or shoes), crank up the music and spend a little time mourning. You'll never forget him, not completely, but you don't have to be sad forever. work your way towards it.
If you think things are still okay enough that you can still stand to be in the same room, sure, be around him. I'm still friends with most my exes, and its pretty cool, cuz you still have a bond, but there's no tension, you can scream at them and they can't break up with you.
I hope things work out.
*hugs*
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