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alright so im 16 and i have yet to have my first kiss, or first real boyfriend, and its not like im ugly or anything, as a matter of fact, im really kinda pritty. (not to over confident of myself though) anyways, i like this guy, and he lives down the street from me. we've talked a couple of times, and he's a grade older than me, any suggestions on how i can maybe get him to like me, with out major flirting,
(im not real good at that)also im really bubbly around my friends but i get kinda shy around him. any suggestions of how to get him to like me?
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lol first of all: flirting is no bad thing! its super easy and after you do it once, your sorta so addicted that you cant stop! ok now back to the question. i have a similar situation with me but since hes about egh lets say 3 grades higher than me and hes about to go to college, its not reallt the same thing lol. get is attention first of all. dress real pretty when you know your gonna see him. boys dont really like it when you over-do on the makeup so keep it simple. start a conversation!! thats the one thing i never do and it KILLS ME! invite him when you go places with a bunch of friends just so you guys can hang out more and it wont give him the chance for him to see you shy. if you really like him, you'll lose your shyness when hes around.
good luck!!
_--Erin
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You seem self confident. That is good. It's great that you know you're pretty. That will help you out in getting his attention and keeping it. The best way to get someone thinking about you and possibly to get them liking you if they don't already, is to let them know that you like them.
If you know that someone likes you, you start to notice them more and perhaps start liking them back. For example, lets say your best friend tells you that a guy that's not in any of your classes that is average looking that you never noticed before told her that he liked you. It would make you curious. It feels great to be liked by someone. So great that the feelings can easily become mutual.
Most people let others know that they like them by flirting. Flirting, though, is beating around the bush. Does they like me or don't they? It's not hard to tell, but nobody wants to get hurt, so most people don't come to a conclusion until they are sure. Flirting isn't going to make anyone sure. It breaks the ice and makes telling the person that you like them easier, but doesn't do much else for you. If flirting isn't your thing, that's perfectly fine.
So, what you need to do is find a way to let him know that you like him. Start a rumor, send a note, flat out tell him, have a friend tell him, whatever you feel comfortable with. All you have to do is get him thinking about you. That will open the doors for a relationship. If you choose not to flat out tell him and get him noticing you in a different way, sometime soon after he starts thinking about you, you'll have to tell him yourself that you like him. Confirm it. Face to face. It's going to be hard and you're going to be scared to death, but nothing's going to happen if he doesn't know for sure especially since you aren't really close with him yet.
Good luck!
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first things first you can't force anyone to like you thats like forcin someone to love someone they don't.but what you can do is have him change his perspective on you that in a way he'll like and then end up liking you for you unforcfully (maybe).im not telling you to flirt majorly im tellin you to let him see the you beyond the shy girl up the street.let him see who YOU really are.with no acting like someone else or different around him jus you.(alot of guys like girls for who they are other than how they look.)
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now matter how hard you try.... you cant make someone like you. The best chance you have at this guy is to be yourself which sounds a little cheesy and is a lot easier said than done. I can get really shy around guys too... if you really want a relationship with him dont be affraid to talk to him or ask him to hang out it doesnt necessarily have to be a date. guys like a girl thats confident and happy but noe stuck up
hope it helps
Zee!!
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