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okay well im thirteen tomorrow and my boyfriend is a year older than me and yesterday my boyfriend told me that his best friend which is my best friend's boyfriend kept asking him how far me and him have gone but he wouldn't tell him. then they made a bet that my boyfriend would finger me by the 27. and last night i asked my boyfriend if i was just a f**king bet to him and he was like oh how do you know about the bet? and no your not just a bet. and we only made it because he wouldn't leave me alone. and then my boyfriend told me that it was also because he feels weird because my two best friends and their boyfriends have sex and stuff and he feels weird because we haven't and he feels left out. and then i was like well what are you trying to tell me ? and he was like well maybe we should do it because i want to because i love you. and i was like no. and he was okay with it but then he kept asking why and stuff and dont i want to know what its like and stuff like that. and i was like yeah i'm curious but i'm not ready to find out. we have only been going out for almost three months. it would be 3 january 10th. and then he was like well i love you and i want to go farther with you. and i was like " okay, i want to go farther but not all the way " and he was like "would you feel comfortable with 3rd?" and i was like yeah i guess and then i found out today that my best friends boyfriend bet my ass that he wouldn't finger me and my boyfriend bet my best friend's tit's that he would. i don't know wahat to do. i don't want to let him finger me if its all just because of a stupid fricken bet. im not a whore or a slut but i'm also not prude. a little advice please?
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this guy sounds like a jerk. id dump him now. i know hes in your group of friends but he cant treat you like prperty and make bets on you thats exptrmely unfair. tell him to f*ck off and to never talk to you again.
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Well, I would have waited until the 27th and busted him on this bet when he tried to pull this crap on me. (Just me showing my horns a little...)
But seriously now...
If he feels he has to bet with his friends when he is going to get so far with you, then he isn't worth getting anywhere near what he wants. Fact of the matter is, he obviously has zero respect for you.
If he had respect, there would have been no bets made.
If he had respect, he would have dropped the subject when you said you weren't ready.
If he had respect, he wouldn't treat you like a whore or a slut. (I'm sorry, but sounds like what he has in mind about you.)
If he had respect, he wouldn't claim false love to you to get what he wants. (Sorry, dearie. But been going out 3 months and he says he loves you? He's just saying it to get into your pants.)
If he had respect, it wouldn't matter that everyone else is doing it, because you are not everyone else.
Want to find out what he really feels about you? Tell him to piss off. You will know at that moment if he loves and respects you.
It's cruel and it's hard, but I wouldn't lie to you.
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well i doubt its just a bet, i mean after all, guys like doing things with girls regardless. still seems shady, especially the terms of the bet. id also say that you are too young for sex, or at the very least, too young for it to be a common thing. dont let him preassure you into anything you arent ready to do, not even if your friends are already doing it. and if he breaks up with you over it, then he wasnt a very good boyfriend to begin with.
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hey, well you pretty much just revealed to the whole entire advicenators world that you are twelve. bad idea. you could get kicked off for that. anyways this whole situation is just ridiculous. they made bets on your ass and boobs? wow they are really immature. anyways back to your question. has he ever asked to finger you before the bet? if he hasnt then hes just trying to win the bet.
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Don't do anything you dont want to, nor regret.
If he would break up with you after, you'd probably feel horrible. and just because he wants to, and you dont want to. dont let him.
Its not being prude and whatever.
"i want to because i love you" sounds like its more of a bet.
No ever let anyone take advantage of you by telling they want to or you have to do something to show you love them. such as "if you love me you'll let me do it" just simply say. "if you love me. you'll wait"
something like that.
hope i helped :]
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