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boyfriend, bestfriend
My friend has recently gotten in the way between me and my boyfriends relationship. Back when I was dating a guy that I hardly ever saw, she was fine with it. We three would hangout together and nothing was akward or strange at all. Ever since I've been dating this new guy, (whom i see on a regular basis and not just every other weekend) shes been nagging about everything having to do with him. She says that we haven't been spending alot of time together, which was true. But now I'm making more of an effort to balance out boyfriend and bestfriend. But latly shes been attacking everything to do with him. She refuses to hangout with just me and him because it would be "akward" but yet she can explain why is it. We never hookup in public or anything; yet even if I just kiss him and shes there with someone else, she'll go "akwarddd" I can't stand her acting this way and shes been becomming very bitchy to me about everything. When we do hangout alone, she acts like a complete jerk to me and then blames it on pms and lack of sleep (which has been her excuse for about a month now) She hasn't had a boyfriend for awhile so I can see that she might be jealous about us being together ... but something else has been happening latly. She's a very touchy feely person about alot of stuff, but since me and my boyfriend have started going out she's kicked it up a notch. She'll do weird things that give me the impression that shes a lesbian like touch me on my arm or shoulder, constantly want to be with me and touch other girls boobs. (as a joke, but she doesn't stop after one time) I don't know how to respond to this seeing as I know she likes boys, but her phyisical actions are making it hard to believe. She's constantly telling me and my boyfriend that shes right about these things and that everyone else agrees with her. It's tense just to be with her anymore. She have these explosions where she rants off to me about how I'm not making any attempt to keep our friendship going and that I don't understand her point. I really am trying to make this work, but with the way shes been acting towards me, I don't see why I should bother. I don't know whether to slowly drift from her, keep her as a friend or something else.
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i think that oyu should talk to your friend and ask her what is going on. You should also ask your bf for some help with her. good luck!
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I think it's either she's jealous. She misses you.. and feels like she's being replaced so she tries to get closer to you. But knowing the next few days, you'll be spending time with your boyfriend and not her... and it would make her feel upset and act up.
I don't think she wants to lose you to your boyfriend. Because it's happened so many times and she probably seen it. So she doesn't want to get hurt and lose her best friend.
You should really talk to her about it though. Find out the reason why she won't hang out with you and him. (Even though, I think it would be awkward. Maybe you can tell him no displays of affection whatsoever.)
You could always get one of your single guy friends to go out a date with her. Maybe like a group date so it's not awkward?
It just seems like she's afraid to lose you.
Just try speaking to her and if she's being impossible, don't stop being her friend. Just give her space and maybe she would realize what she's doing.
Did you spend a lot of time before you had this boyfriend? That could be it. Maybe she feels replaced and that your boyfriend is more important.
Since the whole not spending a lot of time together was true, she might think you'll do it again.
Either way.. it's your choice to keep her as a friend or not but try putting yourself in her situation.
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You really need to talk to her and have her stop talking and give yourself a chance to talk to her. Tell her how she has been acting. If she dosn't stop then why is it worth being with someone who just complains to you every momment. It also could be true that she is jealous of you having a boyfriend and her not. So just talk to her it might solve everything.
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