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I'm becoming what I hate!!!!!
To start 17/m,
I have a SERIOUS problem that is going to destroy me if I don't do something quick. For those of you that are familiar with the wheel of fortune e.i. "What goes around comes around" my entire life is on the verge of falling apart. I have just realized that I'm slowly turning into the monster I always said I would never become. Nothing but sarcasm spews from my mouth, I say horribly mean things to all my friends and loved ones. I told myself last year "I'm never gonna be like my brother because I'm shy, overweight and ugly." My brother would also tease me about that. Now its the opposite. I don't know what to do. I have this feeling that my entire life is going to circle the drain here very soon. So any advice can and will help, thank you.
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what you aer doing is letting go of what people put you through. there was a time when i didnt care about anythig i was like f the world. i was fed up with peoples shit and maybe you are going through the same thing. just remember that things change and we need to change too.
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Please dont take this wrongly Maybe the reason why you are being nasty to the people you care about is because you are insecure about how you look and are just sick of being picked on by people. You should also try and tell one of your close friends about how you feel and perhaps they will understand. In fact I am sure they will.
Btw what you see in the mirror isnt exactly what other people will see!!!!!
Good luck I hope I helped.
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I think you have suddenly realised just how angry you are about being "shy, overweight and ugly" and are now hitting out. It is not necessarily a bad thing to realise that you don't have to take it anymore, but it is how you are dealing with it that is the problem.
As a suggestion, write down everything you like about yourself - ie. beautiful eyes, loyalty to others, a good brain etc. and believe the things you have written.
Take time to count to ten before you reply to what is said to you or recite a little mantra/poem before opening your mouth which will give you some thinking time.
Try taking up a martial arts like judo or Tae Kwon Do to deal with your pent-up anger. Even going for a run will help dispel those feelings of anger before they overpower you.
As for the sarcasm, if you say something that you know is bad, acknowledge it by saying you just heard what you said and it came out wrong/badly and apologise. It will take a little time to turn this around but you will succeed because you want to. Have faith in yourself and believe that you are a good person.
Take care and have a lovely Christmas.
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