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Fashion statement
I know i have already talked on here about how my step mom picked out clothes for me at church. She won't let me where what i want to and she makes me where her grandmothers clothes. I already told her i didnt like it and she said that was the style and i should get used to it. Everytime i get excited about something, i always remember that i have to wear her grandma's clothes that i dont like and it makes me unhappy. I get really excited about something and then i think of that and it makes me sad. I know they are just clothes but 70% of your clothes is confidence and if you don't have that, you have 30% of something. I heard it on the radio, but anyways, any help would be greatly appriciated. thanks so much!
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ok, your step-mom picks out your chlothes, but it isn't that bad! maybe try to spice up the chlothes she picks.
like, wear accesories that you like to make certain peices look better.
maybe just ask her if you can go shopping together and make a decision together on what you can wear.
maybe tell her what you're interested in wearing.
or make a deal with her.
like say she tells you to wear a certain skirt, ask her if you can wear a shirt that you chose with the skirt.
start out with little things and gradually make your way up to picking out your own outfit!
whatever you do, DONT GO BEHIND HER BACK!
knowing moms (or step-moms) she will find out.
and that will lessen the trust and then you will have less of a chance of wearing what you want in the future.
have patience with her.
tell her that you'd like to wear something different for a change, because you would feel more comfortable with it.
if none of this works, and youre still wearing the chlothes shes making you wear.
MAKE THE BEST OF IT!
if you are confident, it will make you look better.
hold your head up high, and smile.
this will make you more attractive, even if youre wearing grandma chlothes :]
hope i could help :]
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Hiya,
Ok so I think I know where you're going....
This same thing happend to me, except the whole grandma clothes part.
My mom used to pick out my clothes for school everyday... It was fine until about 5th grade where my friend brought up a conversation about how she picked out a really cute outfit that morning... I was all like, ohh my mom picks out my clothes for me and she starts laughing at me. I just ignored her and I told my mom what happened that day. My mom still continued to pick out my clothes, UNTIL....
and here's what you should do...
I told my mom I needed something at the mall, (lie- a book) and then I went with her, then when we were by a clothing store, that I liked, I would run in there and try to get my mom into that store too. Then I would find an outfit I liked and convince her to buy it. Like an agreement (if you buy this, i'll do more chores around the house, or If you let me buy this, i'll pay for it)
Then she bought the outfit for me and I begged my mom to let me wear it. I screamed, cried, kicked, begged, and finally she let me wear it.
If you don't like that... what you can also do is start off easy, and then work you're way up.
So if she picks out something, add some perfume, some jewlery, and maybe a hat or something.
then the next day, maybe wear a top of you're choice, and then her coat that she chose out. You know... and then one day just tell her "ok i'll put this on, can you leave the room for some privacy?" and then don't put it on and put on whatever you want, then just rush out the door and leave her.
IF NONE OF THIS STILL WORKS, CONFRONT HER ABOUT IT AND TELL HER YOU ARE ____ YEARS OLD AND THAT YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO WEAR HER GRANDMOTHER CLOTHES, YOU DESERVE INDEPENDENCE AND YOU'LL DO ANYTHING TO WEAR WHAT YOU WANT.
I hope I helped!!!!!
-volleyball2150
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Hmmm...
i'll try my best to answer this.
Since I go to Church every Sunday like a devoted Catholic/Christian, I know what the "trend" is. Usually I wear a long sleeved button down collar shirt and nice pants or a nice skirt with polished shoes. You need to dress nice and appropiate for Church, not school clothes or clothes you would wear if you were going to a party. Church is a place of worship and you must show respect in everything, including your appearence(sp?). You should come down to an agreement with your step mom. Show her what you would rather wear and tell her that you are an adult that can make her own desicions. Tell her you appreciate her help and that she cares, but you'd rather wear something you feel more comftorable with.
hope i helped
xo
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