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Why do people change after the first date/meet up?
Why is that whenever I meet someone on the first date seeing them for the first time everything changes for the worse? For instance, I met this guy and we chatted for a long time and he was always responsive and even more he was more talkative than I was, we also texted back and forth like crazy and then when we went on our first date everything changed... some for the better and some for the worse... now he isn't as responsive as he was before and he never texts me. I don't know what to do.
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Well sit down with him and tell him how you feel and then if thing dont work out then tell him you cant stay with him.
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Ok...What I think you should do is talk to him about how you feel first, see if after talking to him he changes up his style a little bit. If not then you should call it quits.
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There are many answers to this question. One is that far too many people ignore the very good advice to "just be yourself". They put on a happy face when they first meet someone, and of course that persona can't be maintained forever. In this case, he didn't really change - you just didn't know his real personality right away.
Also, text messaging is NO way to really get to know someone. People are very different in the anonymous, faceless world of IM than they are in real life. You can't make a judgment call on someone's personality based on texting. If that's how you're meeting everyone you date, it's not surprising that they aren't what you expect.
It's also possible that he simply didn't enjoy that first date as much as he hoped, and has decided not to pursue the relationship. That's not to say that you did anything wrong - maybe he just didn't feel any chemistry. It would be nice if he was enough of a grown-up to come out and tell you that he didn't feel you really "clicked", but apparently he'd rather just leave you hanging.
Finally, he might just have a really bad headache or something. Maybe nothing is really wrong. Try talking to him - in person, not with text.
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When I read this, I thought " join the club." I tend to get this feeling too. I don't know...everything depends on the situation. Sometimes I feel like things can be a bit awkward on the first date. So how often has this guy kept in touch with you afterwards? It could be that he's losing interest or I don't know...there's no one answer as to why things like this happen. It sucks.. mainly all I wanted to say is I know exactly how you feel. You know, maybe one day if you want you could casually send him a message asking him what he's up to and maybe if he wants to hang out sometime. See how he responds..
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