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My cousins are leaving..
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here's my problem:
I'm one of the youngest cousins on one side of my family and it's getting depressing for me to watch them all leave for college. 2 of them I don't even know! Part of the reason being that I have 10 other cousins besides them and a second cousin. I miss them so much and they don't even know it! I used to like one of my cousins when I was little before I knew he was my cousin, and I'm pretty sure he found out. I don't know what to do because now he might still think I do, but that was 7 years ago, everyone says I should tell him before he leaves for college too, but isn't there an easier way?
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I'm sorry all of your cousins are going off to college. I know its very hard seeing family leave-- there's huge age gap between my brother and I, who left for college when I was only 3! I guess it was better, because I was younger and barely remember, but allthroughout my childhood I really missed out on a sibling experience, since he was my only one. But I remember it used to make me feel better when I e-mailed him (when I got older, of course). I suggest you ask your aunts and uncles your cousins' e-mail addresses, so you can stay in touch. If they don't know, you could ask for their mailing addresses, so you can send them a letter and ask. Some might even have screen names, although I doubt your aunts and uncles know those, so you may want to ask them personally.
About your cousin-- I'm sure he knows that you don't like him anymore. You were just a little kid and didn't know any better. I used to like my cousin, too, when I was a toddler, but then I thought he was "icky" then I was 5, and made sure he knew it, lol. Your cousin has probably even forgotten about it, since its been a whole 7 years. I wouldn't worry about it much.
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Well I totally know how you feel. I'm the second youngest of 26 cousins on my dad's side. I've never met half of them because they all live in Western United States and I'm stuck with my immeadiate family on the East side. Most of them have kids now and I don't even know them either.
I recommened getting their MySpace, phone number, email, or address and getting in contact with them. Ask them about their lives (such as whats going on) where they're going to college, and tell them you want to get to know them since you are flesh-and-blood.
As for that cousin who thinks you like him. Just laugh it off and tell him you were young and had no clue he was your cousin. Most likley he's forgotten about that now or knows better.
If you want you could help arrange a family reunion for all the kids of the family to get to know each other better before everyone leaves.
Good Luck <3
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The best thing as far as the cousin you used to have feelings for go is to not say anything. All kids get little crushes from time to time and then grow out of them. You don't need to explain anything about your past to them because you have nothing to explain. After seven years, I'm sure he will have realised your feelings have changed and I doubt he's worried about this. However, bring it up and it might worry him.
As for missing your cousins, it's always difficult to watch people go off and leave you but why let them leaving be the end of everything? You should try contacting your Aunties and Uncles and getting addresses or telephone numbers for the cousins that are leaving or have left. Write to them letting them know you feel bad for not having made more of an effort to stay in contact and ask them what college is like. Tell them what your life is like. The only reason to truly miss someone is if they are in no way in your life. Once you manage to communicate them, you will have no reason to miss them.
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