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I was a new student this year. And this wednesday, my friends talkeed to me in private saying that i had over-sarcasm, but then again, i got the sarcasm influence from them, especially from clara, who became my best friend in school. since then, they stopped hanging with me and i didn't mind them much. i talked to them sometimes, but only sometimes. i got really miserable because i felt like i was losing my friends whom i'm really close to. last week, we were just so close as besties. then thursay, it was the day before our fieldtrip, i asked her if we could sit together in the bus, which i thought she would say yes to because she asked me months ago if we could sit together in the fieldtrip. but sad to say, she said she was already sitting with isabelle and i got so hurt. i got really mad at her, but i didn't show it on the next day, the fieldtrip. me and clara were so close, like peas in a pod. when there are events in school and i bring my camera, both of us are always together. and during the fieldtrip, everybody else had a partner, except me. and it was a sad situation for me. i hung out with other people in the fieldtrip and i talked to clara sometimes. i saw all my pics, and clara wasn't in any of them, not even one. but then my problem is, after they told me about my over-sarcasm, i wanted to change and be friends with her again. but after her just leaving me aside, i dont know what to think anymore. she was one of the best friends i ever had. but she was one of the people who hurt me in my life, and its like i'm losing her. but is she worth it? because i'm not sure anymore. i'd appreciate good advice. thanks in advanced.
-samantha
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Dear Samantha,
I almost understand completely because i was in a similar situation over the summer. My best friend for 15 years and i realized she was going to a different school. She and I didnt think much of it and it didnt seem to effect us at all, until she invited me to go with her on a 2 day trip to an island about 30 minutes away.I say yes and we went, now before this she had always gotten new bff's every year but still kept me in that group, i never really cared, until she found this new girl who seemed like she was completely trying to take over. Anyway i went with her and we met a girl name "Vanessa" and they hit it off so did i but i wasnt as obbssesed as she was, anyway long story made short when she started her new school she didnt want anything to do with me, at all, and she blamed it on us being in different schools, yet she somehow had found time to spend every day of every weekend with Vannessa, it hurt me and she was forgetting me after all of our years, i tried changing for her and she didnt seem to notice me at all, then we got into a huge blowout fight that wen on forever. Now we are just out of each others lives, we see each other now and then and its just a hi and bye. it doesnt hurt me anymore because i realize how many other true friends i had and how i was the one she would come too when others let her down and whenever i needed her she didnt really seem to care. Just realize that you need to find other friends and leave her beacuse if she was truly your friend she would be coming after you when she realizes you can move on.
I really hoped i Helped!...Bye!
xoxox
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You already had the stress of being a new kid at school this year, and then the added stress having to worry about making friends with this girl again, is not even right. This girl is not even remotely close to being worth ANYTHING. It's awesome how you tried to befriend with her again because that's exactly what I would've done.
Usually it just takes time, and eventually she'll realize how dumb she was being and she'll come back and try and be your best friend again, I promise you.
From now on, I don't think you should worry about Clara, don't even make eye contact with her. Just pretend she isn't even there. Pretty much just give her the cold shoulder & don't really hold a conversation with her. It'll work.
You can do so much better and you shouldn't have to deal with that, it's so immature. Just wait until she comes back and then you can be friends with her again if you want to. But the only reason she's ignoring you now is because she likes to see you the way you are, and that's not what a "best friend" is.
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