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so i have this friend and she acts like im the greatset person ever when im around and talks toatal shit behind my back. last year she made my life hell. she does it to everyone. she is the most twoface person i have ever come in contact with. she makes up lies and belives them so when someone says they arent true shes conviced they are. when we became friends last year everything was fine till the end of school then she tryed to get all my friends to turn on me and told them lies and most of them belived her. she just lies so much! like this one time she told me boyfriend that i liked my ex still and that i wanted to break up with him when i would nver say that ever. and last week she told my bestfreinds boyfriend that she like this other boy and she was going to break up with him so she could gout out with this other boy. and the thing is my bestfreind doesnt even talk to this other boy at all. they're not even freind. i need to know how o depleate this freindship before it starts to get wosre but without hurting her feeling (which is very very easy) and without looking like im a bitch.
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The most tactful way to 'break it off' with her is to tell her the truth, but in a nice way. Write her a letter, but make a photo copy of it before you give it to her.
Tell her you have decided that the friendship between the two of you isn't working out. You don't trust her because of her behavior (the constant lies). You can't be friends with somebody you don't trust. You can also add that her interference in other people's relationships upsets you. Then ask her to not contact you at all. No notes, no talking, and no phone calls. If you want to talk to her, you will contact HER first.
The only person who will think you are a bitch is her. From what I gather, she has a bad reputation for betraying the trust of others and spreading lies. This is not your fault and you are not obligated to make her happy or to fix her.
If she starts telling people things about you, show them the letter, and say that you thought you were doing what was best for everybody by ending your friendship with her.
She seems to have more problems than you can handle right now. But that is just it, they are HER problems and not yours.
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First off let me tell you that I'm sorry you're in this situation. I was in the same place my junior year of high school. You need to ditch this friendship as fast as you can and don't look back. You don't need a "friend" like that. While it's very mature of you to want to take the high road and end it without the drama, I'm afraid it can't be done. Do whatever you need to do to get out of this friendship before more damage is done. Good luck!
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to be honest, it shouldnt even matter if you hurt her feelings from the way you describe her. yeah, she certainly sounds like a bitch who has hurt you a lot.. but if i were you, id be straight up with her. id tell her that i dont want to hang out with her anymore because of her shit talking and all of the lies she spreads. tell her that you dont want to associate with a person who is like that, that youre better than that and if she really wants to be a friend, to straighten up and stop being two faced. and you know what, if you end up lookin like a bitch, so the fuck what? because youll never be as much of a bitch as she is.
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