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Orgasm?
Ok well everytime i get fingered or have sex i never orgasm. The guy does but i dont any ideas how to fix this problem? I dont want to make my boyfriend feel bad about it so i dont really mention it what do you think i should do?
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If your boyfriend thinks everything is fine, then he won't change what he's doing - and you'll probably continue to not have orgasms. Sex should be about BOTH people getting pleasure, not just one.
One thing to try could be masturbating to discover what it is you like. You'll also learn about how your body responds to different types of stimulation - and probably that you need your clitoris involved to reach orgasm. Fingering and plain old sex generally don't involve your clitoris, so that makes things more difficult.
Once you know what you like, get your boyfriend involved. Show or tell him what you like. Ask for oral sex, touching your clitoris, or more foreplay. This is not something you need to feel guilty about, as all of these activities should also provide your boyfriend with stimulation - and most guys WANT to know they are pleasing their partners.
Still, you need to take action. You're responsible for your sexual pleasure, and if things aren't working they won't change unless you help them out.
Best of luck.
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Tell him to play with your clitoris while he fingers you. I can't get off when my boyfriend just fingers me either, or try fingering yourself to find out what you like. Then tell him how you want him to do it. Most likely, he'll like you being demanding.
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I suggest that you explore your own body in private and discover what you find erotic. Once you know what turns you on you can direct your boyfriend in that direction. Use encouragement to let him know how you are feeling and if he is hitting the spot. You can also purchase a vibrator (over the net if you are too embarrassed to go into a shop) and use it to help you also.
Happy hunting!!
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