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my mom forgot me at school....
my name is Rachel strickland and iam 17 years old and iam sorry if this in the wrong category but i didn't know weather to put this in school or parenting so i put under parenting but anyways lets get to the point of things.my mom works in the lunchroom at school so at the end of the day when the bell rang I figured like she always does she would wait for me in the cafetiria like i said she always does this and she wasn't there so i looked in the kitchen becouse sometimes she goes into the kitchen to clean up a little bit while she waits again she wasn't there so i looked in the media center sometimes she goes in there to get a magazine or a newspaper to read while she waits for me again she wasn't there so i begane to get scared even though iam 17 i don't like the idea of being by myself or my mom forgetting me anywhere becouse my dad died when i was 12 and ever since then i haver real bad anxiety attacks so anyway I waited outside for about an hour and half becouse if figured my mom had to do go pick up my 5 year old niece and 3 year old nephew from school first I understand that my niece and nephew have to come before i do becouse they are younger than me but what me mad was i got tired of waiting for 30 minutes outside so i went in and called my stepdad to com and get me he wouldn't come becouse he said he had to take somebody to work i thought he's 17 year old stepdaughter was more important than his social life so i began to get scared and upset so i told ok and hung up the phone and i started crying becouse this has never happened to me before ever so I went back outside to wait and i waited for about another hour so that was an hour and half waiting school gets out about 3:00pm and i waited about an hour and a half untill i got tired of waiting all day long like i was nothing so i started to walk home by myself when i don't like that anyways i got so nervous about walking about walking home my hands were cold and clamy and i started shaking my heart was beating really fast and i had a really bad headache and iwas still crying so by the time i got home my niece and nephew were on the floor playing like everything was ok i know they are only 5 and 3 so i wasn't mad with that what i was mad about to see my mom taking a nap on the couch I don't know why that made me so mad but it did so when my mom woke up i didn't wake her then becouse i needed to take a nap myself and get calmed down so i took a nap and when i woke up my mom was fixing dinner and then when she saw me she said i hi honey dinner's ready and then i said mom did you happen to forget something at school today like mabey your daughter and then she just said sorry like it was no big deal what should i do please help!!!!!!!!
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I'm guessing your mom thinks you're more mature unlike your niece and nephew. Just tell your mom how you feel. You're close to becoming an adult and you need to realise your mom isn't always going to be there for you. What are you going to do when your mom dies. Its a sad thing to think about but its gonna happen to all of us. She wants you to stand up on your own feet.
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You are 17 years old, and i'm sure your mother thought you would be fine on your own. After all, you will be out of her house in a year or less. Once you are 18, you are officially an adult, so I suppose she thought it was time for you to be more independent. I understand that you're scared to be by yourself, considering you lost your father, but it's time to get over your fear and start being more self effecient. You obviously did fine getting home on your own. Consider that a test that you've passed. If this bothers you that bad, talk to your mom and let her know. The clammy hands, headache, and extreme nervousness could be a sign of an anxiety disorder. If you let her know about this, she can get your help and counceling if it's needed. Just relax and breathe. You are fine now, and obviously your mom is under a great deal of stress. Seeing as how she has a 17 year old daughter, a job, and on top of that, she has to babysit toddlers. It's not easy and maybe she thought you could fend for yourself just one day.
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I know you aren't going to like what I have to say, but I feel it important to be honest w/you.I won't help you at all if I tell you what you want to hear. It sounds to me like our mother is trying to help you become independent. You are 17 years old now and should be able to get home from school on your own. This doesn't mean your mother doesn't love you. As a matter of fact it proves that she loves you implicitly. Your step father probably reacted the way he did because he and your mother agreed on this as a way of helping you overcome your anxiety. Part of what parenting is about is to instill independence in children and helping children cope w/life. Look at what YOU accomplished here. You actually got yourself home, w/o incident, all by yourself. That's fantastic! You should be proud of yourself. You can't let these anxiety attacks control your life and that is what your mother and stepfather are trying to help you with. When I was 17 my parents barely saw hide nor hair of me. But don't use me as an example because it's entirely possible that I was too independent. There's a happy medium that you may want to shoot for. Start getting home on your own is a great start and if you don't want to be by yourself at first then get w/friends and hang out w/them after school a while. Have one of them walk you home. I'll bet you that if you start becoming more independent your mother will come to you one day and wistfully ask, "where is my little girl". I wish you all the luck in the world w/this and I know you will overcome your anxiety.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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