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Love or Hate?...
ok here's how it is: I'm new to this highschool so yeah I'm a freshmen. After a couple of weeks there's this girl that I have my eye on. I don't know why but I like her,she's different from the other girls, REALLY different. I think she could be a goth. oh well. So yeah I like her but she doesn't know but I've been getting the feeling like she glances at me sometimes like when I glance back she like looks away so I think she likes me. BUT... one morning I think I saw her smoking..That's sort of a problem to me because for some reason I dislike her since I now know she smokes but I still have feelings of love.Another reason is I don't like people much if they smoke because to me smoking takes lives of people away. plus also I don't think my parents will approve of her if they found out she smokes. So right now I don't know what to do. I have feelings of hate but love for her.I also want to save her but I'm scared that I might offend her in any way. I also have thoughts on why does she smoke. Maybe its that people dont accept her. Man I'm stuck...
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The reason you don't want her to smoke is because your afraid that if you get to close to her she will die and you will be heartbroken.
You could ask her out then slowly but steadily suggest about her giving up or ask is she thinking about giving up.
You've got to take a chance.
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You shouldn't change your standards of what you like and don't like in a potential girlfriend. Smoking is something you cannot change in someone, believe me on that one. It's an addiction and it takes years for someone to change a habit like that. On top of that, she's going to have to REALLY want to stop or she won't have the willpower. You seem to really hate the idea she smokes, so maybe focus your attention on someone else and just try and move on from her. If you honestly really like her and want to try, then you can get over the smoking thing eventually. When someone really likes somebody, one flaw is not going to stop them. If you guys end up together, just ask her not smoke around you and especially not your parents. It's a good start!
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