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she's scared. and I don't know what to do.
Okay.
I have a girlfriend, we have been together for a little over 13 months.
Just recently, she has been telling me that she's really scared that she is going to lose me and she is scared that she is going to get hurt again.
I don't know what to do.
I am scared that her not wanting to lose me, will cause her to breakup with me.
It doesnt really make since but thats how it is.
I keep telling her that she will not lose me.
I keep telling her how much in love with her I am, and I know she feels the same way.
I have asked her to please trust me with her heart, and I will never leave.
I just don't know what to say to make her stop being so scared. I don't know what to say to make her stop worrying.
PLEASE HELP ME TO KNOW WHAT TO SAY!
pleasepleaseplease.
Thankyou so much.
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If she doesn't trust you enough to believe you then ask her why she thinks shes going to lose you it may be to do with a past relationship.
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OKay, I have a boyfrined that Im in love with.
The boyfrined I had right befor this one broke my heart. It took my nine months to get over him. Im glad I did but i know where your girlfrined is coming from and if you have any feelings that she might break up with you you should ask her about it. Being that you guys have been togetehr for longer than a year i assume you guys are reallly close and you can talk to her about anything. Ask her somehting like, " Babby, I know you're scared that I'll hurt you but I promise you, i give you my word, I won't ever do anything to hurt you and I really don't want you to end what we've got so that you don't get hurt because i promise i've got no reason to hurt you and i don't intend to, everr." you know to like make her more secure and if sh doesn't respond to that be straigth forward and tell her that you don't want her to end your realtionship because she is scared and like just hugg her a lot and kiss her on her forehead more often, let her know you reallly do care about her. I dont know if you guys are sexuallly active or whatever but if so then you could maybe slow it down a little for a couple months so that she knows that you're not using her, hich i doubt she thinks that but you never knwo. just talk to her more about it and don't ONLY promise her that you'll not hurt her but ALSO try to make her feel goood about herself and say things to her like you don't know how in the world that guy could have hurt her because she is the most precious thing everr, and he must be a total idiot to get rid of somone so amazing. make her feel goood. hope IM helpinggg:)
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Everybody has doubts sometimes. Especially girls. Since girls focus too much on feelings sometimes, they tend to misinterpret what they are actually feeling and take it way out of context and proportion. In any case, it's not the actual problem, but how it is perceived that is the issue. She is being very open and honest with you. It's scary to know that that's what she is thinking, but she trusts you enough to share these feelings with you, which is good. Be happy that you're in the loop instead of completely clueless. Having doubts like this is usually just a phase. If you can get her through it, your relationship will be just fine. You're doing a great job handling it so far. My suggestion is to not only reassure her, but to compliment her a lot. Most of the time when people have doubts like this, it is partly because they feel bad about themselves, which leads to not feeling like they deserve the person they are with. You can't love another until you can love yourself. Don't overdo it though. If you go way above and beyond, she's going to think more and more about how wonderful you are and how less wonderful she is. Way above and beyond would be buying her things, spending extra time with her, or doing anything that is way out of the ordinary for you. For example don't write her a poem if you normally wouldn't. Basically all you have to do is share the positive feelings that you have about her. Tell her she's pretty, tell her she's smart, and back those things up! Don't just tell her she's pretty. Tell her why. Don't just tell her she's smart, tell her what she's smart about. Be creative! With a little strength and confidence you can get her through this. Good luck! :)
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