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My boyfriend is getting to the point where he is kind of pre
13/F
Okay, my boyfriend and I haven't even been going out for a WEEK, and he's already kind of hinting that he wants to have sex with me. I know I shouldn't, and I won't give in, being as that I am Catholic and have religious morals. But, I was with him yesterday and he had an erection. It kind of freaked me out, because we weren't even kissing or anything, and I really don't think I'm ready to have the same type of relationship he wants. And also, yesterday, he showed me condoms he had bought, and that pretty much just took me over the edge. He told me if I really wanted him to just stop everything, he would, and I do believe him, but when I'm trying to tell him no, my shy-side won't let me say anything. Is there any way I can simply tell him no and I want to wait for things like this until I'm older?
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just tell him that....i mean you guys havent even went all the way through puberty. so you dont need to go all the way with anything else. this isnt a matter to be shy about because he sure isnt just tell him no and why if he pushes the matter you dont have to explain yourself anymore.if he doesnt like it then he really doesnt truly like you all that much and you need to break up with him. hes at that young perverted stage.
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okay hun; i know this is really hard for you and that you shouldn't even have to deal with this at the age you are but; it's going to come up many times in your life. Just like you i didn't want to have sex before i was MUCH MUCH older or until i was married but i DIDN'T talk about it and just let the boy control my thoughts on the idea and did it anyways. My advice for you doll is; 1. talk to him about it. i kow it will be akward but it's good for you to be open with him especially if he is showing signs that he REALLY wants to; and it seems to me he does.
2. Don't loose your morals because your afraid to loose him; i did. Now that i have and think about it i wish i didn't because it's something your never going to forget.
3. If he decides that he doesn't want to be with you because of this; forget him. There is going to be so many more guys in the world and you WILL find one who will love you for you.
i know it's hard because i remember i was 13 and i wanted someone i could call my own but; you have your whole life. You shouldn't be worrying about this. Cheer up hun and follow your heart.
-megg.
ps.i hope this helps. if you need anything message me :]
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It is very good to hear a girl your age is deciding to wait. A lot do wait but it isn't talked about quite as much as those who are sexually active. You are much to young to handle all the consequences that could occur.
Here is a good page for you to read. I hope it helps
you. Just tell him what you told us. You are not ready for that type of relationship right now. :)
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ew. but he sounds like a ass. i have had some really horney bfs and none of them wanted sex after a week. i think there something the matter with him.. like in his head or something. maybe a teen sex addict. lol. but i would break up with him. you have to over come your shyness.
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Tell him your not ready for that kind of commitment yet, by the way your only 13 so hopefully he will understand. Tell him that you dont want to do that with him and that you can have a great relationship without that. If he dosent like that then maybe you and him should just be friends. Dont ever let someone push you to do things you dont want to do. Because then, your not yourself anymore.
I hope this helps! Good luck!
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