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She is mean to me
ok....today at school this gurl named kayla (the gurl who leaves me out) said that her and rikki (my bff) were going to a festival together without me. it made me feel bad cause my best friend didnt even tell me, and i wouldn\'t of gotton mad if she did. also today...i was telling her bye on the bus when i had to get off and she said \"go samantha...i am trying to sit by rikki!\" and she was really rude...and you know, you get the small things everyday. she will come up to talk to her in the hallway and just ignore me and she will give her hugs, sit by her at lunch and all that stuff and i have triend over and over and over to make friends with her and she still is rude because she wants rikki to herself. i know if i tell rikki, she will get mad because she dosent think kayla is being mean or rude to me. thats just the way she is. she also just talks to kayla when kayla is around us, unless i statrt a conversation between us. also...if i just go on my own and not talk to them...i dont have any other really good friends so i would be all alone if you say that they are being bad friends...i would rather be treated like this than be all by myself. i have cried myself to sleep thinking about this. please please help.
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Baby, this happens to everybody. There are a few things that you should do.
*Talk to Rikki when Kayla is not around. (On the phone, possibly) Tell her whats goin' on.
*Make new friends. I am not tryin' to tell ya to get over Rikki, but if you have other friends to fall back on when other friends are busy you will feel better. You have to learn to share Rikki with the world.
*Finally, learn how to spell girl. Its got an 'i.' It will make you SO much more popular. Take it from Grandma Betty.
Love,
GBL xoxoxo
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You need to talk to Rikki. She won't get mad if you say the right things. Don't talk about how mean Kayla is being to you. Instead, tell her how Kayla is making you feel. If Rikki is your best friend, you should be able to tell her when you are upset. In all reality, Kayla probably isn't being all that mean to you, but that's not what matters. What matters is how bad she is making you feel. I think that if you can keep the conversation focused on yourself instead of Kayla, Rikki will understand. Rikki has her own opinion of what Kayla is doing to you, so she can argue against yours. She has no idea however, what's going on in your mind and won't be able to argue with that. I hope that everthing gets worked out and I wish you the best of luck. :)
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i have almost the exact same situation as you right now so i know how you feel. it sucks. you have done really all you can do. i know that isnt what you wanted to hear but its the truth. but you mentioned that you havent talked to rikki. you need to. let her know whats going on and how you feel. if shes a true friend then she will understand and try to make it work. try to get some more alone time with her and you 2 will get closer and hopefully she will forget about kayla a little. good luck to you and if you have any other questions, drop one in my inbox. let me know how it goes!!
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