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am i too involved in this?
I have a friend (15/f) who is currently going out with "Jim." Though we've grown apart the past year, I'm pretty sure she never even thought of him that way until he asked her out. A week ago she said she was ready to end it, because he had been teasing her too much and taking her away from her friends. She said she was going to wait until this weekend, because there was a big sweet sixteen party and they were going together. The party was last Saturday, and they are still together. I don't have a problem with this, except that I don't know that he's stopped teasing her.
What should I do, if anything? I mean he isn't physically hurting her or anything, and she said he's "gotten better." She also realized that last weekend was their one-month, and didn't want to end it then. I'm afraid next weekend it will be another excuse! I know its possible he is better, and she does like him.. but if it's not, what do i do?? Should I do anything?
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I would just let your friend continue in this relationship. Even though your words of advice may possibly help her, she's the one who has to decide when to end it, if she even wants to end it, and she's the one who has to decide if she wants to listen to your advice at all in the first place or not.
Whenever you're talking to her, just ask her how the relationships going, and if she tells you he's still continously teasing her, then offer her some advice and just let her know that if he's insulting her like this, maybe she should think about breaking it off. Is she happy? She shouldn't take someone if she's not happy in the relationship.
I think her boyfriend has possibly gotten better. It sounds like it to me, if you haven't heard anything lately about him teasing her or anything. :)
I hope I helped.
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It's just better for you to step away and let your friend decide whether or not this guy is good for her. I mean, your words advice might help, but she probably won't listen to you and not because she doesn't think you're right, but because she just wants to keep control in her own relationship.
So you should try checking on her and ask her how things are going every once in a while, but don't make it sound like you are a concerned parent or anything because she'll just take it like you don't trust her that her boyfriend has gotten better.
-TheTeenGirl
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