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I still love him .
My and my "boyfriend" just broke up nine days ago. It feels like months, because he asked someone out right after he broke up with me. I was heartbroke, I was crying everynight. I'm no longer crying every night, but I still love him. I want to let him know; that I miss him & love him still. Even if he doesn't want me back. I'm thinking about asking him out again, after I get myself back together.
But he still has a girlfriend, it's completly obvious that the relationship between them won't last. It's sorta of a rebound-relationship. I haven't talk to him ONCE since the breakup. I don't want to ask him out right away. But, I don't know how to start talking to him again without it being really awkward. Help?
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at first its going to be really awkward regardless of the amount of time you waited to talk to him, he's your ex who started dating someone immediately after you guys broke up.
i understand the fact that you miss him, but to me, he doesn't sound like someone you should try to get back together with. if he broke your heart & chose someone that quickly, he wasn't worth it in the beginning.
but its your choice & i can't tell you what to do, but i'm just trying to save you from a heartache again.
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Well, it's possible that he might still like you, and he's just dating her to make you jealous. That is, unless he broke up with you.
If that's the case, and if you're sure you want him back, just call him on the phone, IM him, or if he's ever away from his girlfriend and everyone else, tell him how you feel. Think of something good to say, something that will make him want you back.
Or, you could just remind him of all of the good times you had with him, then he might in time find out that he's better off with you and no one else.
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I went through exactly the same thing you're going through just a few weeks ago. Guys (young guys; teenage years) are CONSTANTLY and i mean CONSTANTLY changing their minds and feelings. This new girlfriend could very well be a senseless fling. He doesn't want to seem like he doesn't have anyone else, so to make it seem like he's a "player" he picks up a new girl right away. Girls dwell over why the relationship failed and ask questions over and over again while guys deal with it buy either drinking or finding another girl QUICK. The thing guys always need after a breakup though is time. Time is the biggest issue here. Do not contact him right away. Let it sink in and let him miss you, even let him realize that you have your own life. It wouldn't hurt to flirt a bit and grab a few new guy friends (there always a great help with breakup advice too). After about a week or two, text him or call him with something along the lines of "hey, just wanted to see whats up". Do not ask about his girlfriend and do not act jealous or mean. Don't bring any of your deep feelings out in the open just yet, you want to move into this slowly. Guys get scared away by feelings that are put on full blast by a girl, so keep it light and friendly. Good luck with everything :]
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I know this isn't what you want to hear, but think about the reason why you two broke up in the first place. Maybe it's for the best, you know? Now I really WOULDN'T because I have no idea what the break up was about, but if it was over a big issue like insessantly fighting and everything, then that's something that's firstly going to need to be talked about, if you two are going to think about having a relationship together again.
So talk to him firstly about why you two broke up in the first place and let him know that you still love him and miss him, and you'd really like to resolve it, and hopefully gain a relationship again. And if the issue is resolved, you both are going to have to make an effort to make sure it doesn't happen again.
But if he isn't willing to resolve it, then I'm sorry, but it seems his mind is made up. Like I said, I don't know the real reason for why you two broke up, but maybe the relationship isn't a rebound. It probably is, but do you think he might've had feelings for this girl, and dumped you for her? Because if that's so, then talking to him about getting back together already is not going to go over too smoothly.
So just think of the reason why you two broke up, and think is it really worth it to get back together with this guy, and if the issue you two had is able to be fixed and everything. And then if you find it can be, then talk to him about him and let him know you love him and miss him and are willing to try and work everything out if he is, and you really want to get back together with him, and see where it goes from there.
I hope I helped.
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