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Theres been too much on my mind.
So I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 16. I posted a question yesterday.. and this is a continue on.. Well my boyfirned went back and forth with me and two other girls in the way beginning and then when they didnt work out he came to me...So I really felt something strong between us. I also felt like a rebound. but we have been together for a little over 7 months and we have been pretty strong. I don't think hes cheating on me its just I get really jealous. He talks to this girl he used to really like...and he always goes on church retreats or to camp and i get really worried about him falling for another girl. He tells me he wouldnt and he can't be attracted to anyone else... but from the past i get worried. I also have anger problems when i get jealous i just ignore him until i break down and cry. We talk about it eventually but i treat him wrong when i'm jealous or sad. I wish I didn't and I don't know how to handle myself. I'm scared of him thinking I have too many problems and just getting up to leave me. I just want to know what i should do.
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Yeah i can relate to you, but hey just calm down and breath for a sec... I think my bf does taht to (will fall in love w/another gurl)its scary but what i do is try to occupy my tyme to him so that he woulnt have time for that other gurl at all.... do things that make him happy then he wont think that you have probelms and that you care for him and tell him you love you(only if you really do)and when your mad try doing things that make you happy or just write your anger out on paper;make a poem or sumthn ya kno..dont go all offf yelling and screamn becuase that will stress you out more..THINK BEFORE YOU ACT OR BSAY ANYTHIG ..i kno its hard but you have to accomplish handlin you anger.Member write a poem about it or just write down how you feel at that moment.. Get back @ me..
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I definetly think you have every right to worry or feel a little scared of him cheating, but the thing is that the past is the past and you have to be fair to this guy by giving him a chance and if he actually does cheat, then you should be jealous and upset.
You can't really spend most of your time with him being scared or it won't be any fun to be with him and it definetly won't be fun for him. And you're right, if you don't stop being paranoid and jealous then he might have to leave because he's not being trusted when he hasn't done wrong yet.
I know you can't just snap your fingers and get rid of these emotions, but you can keep these feelings to yourself and reach out to him by trusting him even if you are paranoid inside. The best way to fade out these feelings are to do activities of your own. Don't just sit at home while your boyfriend is out with friends or other events. It lets your mind wander and that's probably when you'll start feeling scared.
-TheTeenGirl
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