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Me and My Boyfriend
Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for awhile now. We are both in the 9th grade and he is best friends with my brother. Well he gave me my first kiss and we always kiss but its only pop kissing. I want to make out with him but im too shy. i have never done it in my life and im very nervous. I dont know how to do it or if im bad. I know he wants to do it because he even said it but he knows im shy so hes not going to force me. But i dont want to make him wait and we know we both want it. So what should i do?
Your help is very apreciated..thanks!
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if you are really not ready don't do it just for him if you have dated for a while he probably will not dump you over something stupid like this
One way to satrt is to start kissing him on the lips and maybe stay close to let him know
Another way is to kinda open your mouth while u are about to kiss and stop a bit short
As a guy its not always how good you are but how relaxed and how good you can fallow just let him lead that ia the easest way to learn everyone kisses different so enjoy yourself
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It could be uncomfortable if whatever the two of you do, get back to your brother. Your boyfriend had better not even think of forcing you to do anything, whether or not you are shy, so you know. Take it slow and make sure that you are the one in control of the pace of things. Guys are most often the sexual aggresors and it is left up to the girls to speak up and tell them to stop, unfortunately. Even if you are enjoying it, take it slow, because guys can get carried away and you could become uncomfortable very fast. I would talk to him specifically and directly about what you want and do not want to try, that it is important that he not think once you get started it is a free for all, and that you will be the one to set the pace or no go. There is nothing wrong that you will do, and there are no formulas. The unknown is part of the excitement, and rushing things will only make it less enjoyable. Every part of the body can be enjoyed, not just the obvious sexual parts. So, arms, and the neck and back are all places you can explore together, without fear of getting into things too quickly. Sex is usually the LEAST enjoyable thing for the girl, at least until your twenties, so why even go there and put yourself at risk for pregancy and all the rampant sexually transmitted diseases? You can even enjoy orgasms being fully clothed. If you do start thinking about becoming more sexually active, talk about protectiong yourself with your parents if you can, a school counselor, your doctor (it is confidential always!) or a local clinic that is also confidential and will supply you with free condoms. I know this is a lot, but I want you to be prepared mentally and emotionally before you start becoming more physical.
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ignore princesses lamo advice. dont worry things will fall into place eventually. if he said he wants to what makes you so nervous? if you love him tell him. just hang out with him and it will just happen when its ready to.
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Uhhmm you have really bad grammer. Just thought I'd let you know.
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My advice is to maybe go to the movies, and see a cute movie. It might sound corny, but maybe when there is a kissing scene in the movie, look at him and maybe just like kiss him on the cheek or something, and maybe something might happen out of that. Hope this helps.
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Your boyfriend sounds like a great guy. Especially if hes not going to force you to do something. If you both want to make out then I'd say go ahead and do it. but if your that nervous then talk to him. He should understand. Tell him yeah you want to make out with him but have never before and not sure how it will turn out. If he really is a good boyfriend he'll understand. I'm sure it will be fine. Not everyone is perfect at these things. Also,since you want to heres your chance. If you keep passing every chance you got cuz u don't know how it will turn out, it'll never happen. you gotta try it sometime. But whatever you think is right, is right. I hope this advice helps you out and remember "Practice makes perfect!"
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