well there's this guy in my social group so we're always hanging out, ive liked him for about 3 months. and in the past month he's kissed me 3 times and recently i talked to him and asked him where we stand coz i dont wanna be friends with benefits. he said that he really likes me but the timing is wrong and that by winter he'll be ok and that if im still up for it he'll ask me out. im sick of waiting and im not sure if he's just using me. i want him to ask me out soon before he changes his mind or something. is he just using me? and how to get him to ask me out sooner?
DiNOxTHUNDER answered Saturday October 14 2006, 6:37 pm: it seems like he just needs a little bit of a break.i think that he really does like you.if he didnt then y would he kiss you or tell you he did?if hes really worth it,then hes worth the wait.just be his friend and dont let anything between you change.i once waited for a guy i really liked and it was so worth it.so it will be for you to.good luck.and feel free to IM me at dinoxthunderx.=D [ DiNOxTHUNDER's advice column | Ask DiNOxTHUNDER A Question ]
BitsandPieces answered Saturday October 14 2006, 6:18 pm: Good for you for standing up and thinking about yourself!!! Too many girls are just putting themselves out there to be used over and over, again and have very low self-esteem. You are worth having a boyfriend who is commited to you in a way you are comfortable with and shows respect. Why is the timeing wrong? What is it about the Fall that keeps him from being faithful? I would demand to know or forget him. He could definately be using you, so don't let him. You need real answers before you decide whether or not he is worth waiting for. If you stand up for yourself, he will either make it clear he was only using you, or he will step up to your standards. Sometimes if people are used to getting away with something, they think they can continue it forever. Set him straight. [ BitsandPieces's advice column | Ask BitsandPieces A Question ]
MelLeDisko answered Saturday October 14 2006, 3:44 pm: I don't think he's really using you, I mean, you guys have only kissed you three times. If he was using you, he'd be wanting to make out with you all the time and wanting to do more than makeout. I really think now's just not the good time for him to be having a girlfriend.
Something maybe going on with him that's just, making it not a good time like I said, or if he's involved with some type of sport they may be in the final games of the season and he probably wouldn't have any time to spend with you during all those final games and everything.
There really is no way to get him to ask you out SOONER, but just continue hanging out with him more and everything the way you guys have been doing to show him you're still very interested in him, and maybe even ask him why isn't not a good time for him, to just get it out of the way. I know you're sick of waiting, but if he's a great guy, it'll be worth the wait, trust me. And plus, he's already practically your boyfriend cause you guys both like eachother and kiss and everything. It's just not COMPLETELY offical.
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