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hes a very complicated person.
so i had this boyfriend that i met through my bestfriend. they had a fling. but it ended. and he turned to me. i really actually grew to love him. but we broke up for a week. that is when i found out that my "bestfriend" asked him back out. and he couldnt say no. i felt like it was because im terrribly ugly or something. because shes kinda sorta pretty. then he dumped her for me. and we went out for about a month. keep in mind hes 2 years older than me. i thought we were really happy. like hes really sweet. he told me that he wanted to marry me and actually proposed(with a ring from a little toy dispencer it was so effing cute!) he said that he planned on spending the rest of his life with me. and he wanted to have kids with me. but all of a sudde a couple of days ago, he said that he tought that we needed a break. but this isnt a break up. like he tells me that he loves me still. and that we will bw together again. but he keeps talking to my "bestfriend". like telling her that he loves her too. and stupid shit like that too. but he told me today that he wants me to wait for him. like wait a week for him to collect his thoughts. but i dont know if i can wait. what should i do? advice would be greatly appreciated. im 14/f
thanx all
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This guy is so full of bull! You and your friend are playing right into his hands by putting up with his nonsense. Guys are not emotionally turmoiled, they just want to do more than one chick and avoid commitment. Just because he says what you want to hear, don't believe any of it. He is playing you like a fiddle. We all want to believe stuff that makes us feel good, but in the end if we realize we are being misguided and used, we must stand up for ourselves and come back down to earth. Go by his actions ONLY, and not his words. The truth is in what he does, not what he promises.
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It seems to me like this guy is trying to juggle two girls around at once, which means he's a major jerk.
If he wants to marry you and have children with you and loves you, why would he need to take a break from you to collect his thoughts? And while doing this tell other girls that he loves them too? He sounds like one huge player ; I wouldn't be suprised if he's telling your "best friend" the same exact marriage speech too.
I would have a serious talk with this guy about where his loyalties lie, and what exactly he's doing with your relationship with him ; because he can't just have you sit there and wait and wonder with what's going on. And he definetely can't be sitting there talking to other girls telling them he loves him. He doesn't sound as commited as you are. So you should just let him know that if he doesn't start being more committed to you and actually LOOK like he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, then you can't be with him anymore. Boyfriends shouldn't make their girlfriends sit around like that wondering all the time. It's hurtful for you.
But if I were you, I wouldn't want to try and fix things. I would break up with him, because like I said if he's sitting there saying all this stuff to other girls, that might mean he might be DOING all sorts of stuff with other girls. Like I also said, the word "player" instantly pops in my mind, and he just sounds like a big jerk to keep a girl sitting around waiting wondering what's going on, and I think you deserve better. There's so many other guys out there for you to date and get to know. I mean you guys are only 14, wayyy too young to be thinking of marriage and children already.
I hope I helped.
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Alright first of all hes not really "in love" with you hes playing with your mind. Another peice of advice either you can take it or not but i believe he is tryi ng to get both you and your friend arguing dont let that happen. Friends come before boyfriends trust me this has happened to me before i lost many friends over stupid things guys say. If you keep away from him for a while and think it over than youll surley come to the conclusion that all hes doing is playing you both. Sorry i couldnt help so much but i hope i helped a little and write me back i would love to hear about it turning out.
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Seems to me this kid is having a laugh. If I were you, I wouldn't stand for that. Far too many times the "wait for me" situation has popped up and let me tell you, it's not pretty.
You obviously really like this person. and he's making it a whole lot worse by building up false hope.
He said he loves you. Then tells your best friend he loves her. It's not on y'know?
and speaking to a 14 year old about marriage and children is a little far fetched don't you think?
If I were in your shoes, I'd sure as hell tell him to do one.
Harsh, I know. But if you show no interest in him, he MAY realize he misses you and things MAY work out a second time round.
You could also try talking to him. and telling him all your feelings. There's not much else you can do. He knows how you feel and it's basically up to him whether he'd want to be in a relationship with you again.
But for now, I'd focus on other more important things, like your other friends, education and basically having fun.
and if it does work out a second time, GOOD LUCK.
If not however, move on. You're young and you have plenty time to find a boy who will appreciate you as you do to him.
Hope it all works out as you want it to, though. Best of luck.
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First off,from what i read hes toying with both of your guyses heart.My opoin is if you think its worth waiting for then wait, But i know i wouldnt wait for a guy who was in ''love'' or so he tells her with my best friend.Second of all, your friend should have never asked him out that one time,if she knew you liked him, and dont get down on yourself because a stupid boy is interested in another girl.Hope i helped. Oh and heres a quote
'' If hes stupid enough to walk away, Be smart enough to let him ''
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