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Hey!
Like a month ago, my friend Paul told me he thought my friend Victoria was just a little hot. I said, oh, but I like him. Seriously, I love him I think. I am 13, but I do. I have had many boyfriends, but somethings special about him.
At this dance Friday, Paul was like I am going to ask Victoria to dance. Victoria is like my best friend too. I pretended I told victoria but I didnt, then I told Paul she was like "Eww."
So now apperently he really likes her. I have been preteneding to try and hook them up, just to talk to Paul. Paul and I talk on the phone, but it is always about Victoria! I get in troble in english and math, always because I am showing off for Paul.
I try and show off, like I say, "Paul you might now like Victoria, she hasnt kissed anyone." Then he said, Dont worry, she will get kissed if you get her to go out with me.
Victoria doesnt really like him. She might go out with him, because I think she knows I like him. Victoria and I are friends and all, almost best friends, but we try to be better then one another.
Im not sure what to do. Should I keep talking bad about Victoria? I rather Paul then Victoria though, because Vicotoria and I are that great of friends!
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This thing that is "so speacial" is called hormones...
Don't let them get out of hand.
It's cool to have boyfriends and like them.
Some of my boyfriends from jr high are now some of my best friends.
Just don't get too serious... you have your whole life ahead of you!
*I am 20.. I know what I'm talking about!*
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well if paul is the same age as you then the chances r that he's not goin to marry her sonn so you shud let them date & see hopw it goes & if victoria dumps him then you could be there to pick up the pieces
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It is clear that you are competing with Victoria, but unfairly. Love is not about getting, it is about giving. You are lying to the two people you claim to care. The truth always gets out, and you are not going to be unscathed. It is not for you to judge whether or not she likes him enough to be told the truth.
You are playing God with the truth and manipulation the situation to what you think is your advantage, but think about this: What has it really gotten you? You are willing to get in trouble and risk losing a friend and your chances with this guy to protect yourself....it is a way of hiding from the hurt you feel from the rejection of losing the competition with your friend of this boy's interest.
You must start by admitting and accepting the truth for yourself. When we lie to others, we are trying to convince ourselves most of all that some fantasy we want is real. You have created a mess and I am sure you feel the burden of keeping this up or want to know how to get out of it before this snowball of deceict comes down on you and destroys your credibility with your friend and this boy. Before they figure it out...if they have not already, you need to go to them and confess what you did. If you are genuinely remoreful they will be most likely to forgive you. Then you will have not only their respect, but most importantly, you will start respecting yourself again.
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If you like Paul you need to tell him you like him and confess what you have been up to.
What will happen now is he will somehow find out, probably when he gets the nerve to speak to Victoria himself, and then he isn't going to like you much anymore.
And if Victoria should go out with him and like him, then finds you haven't passed on messages...she may not like you much either.
If you don't want to loose BOTH friends, stop Playing games. People in the real world don't
like it.
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NO, you shouldnt keep talking bad about Victoria. Yea, you two might be really good friends and this might not change your relationship with her, but when will this stop? It will break your friendship up sooner or later and it will be ugly. If you continue to do what youre doing, the only thing that is going to happen is he is going to give up trying to get with Victoria and youre going to try to get him to see that you like him and he isnt going to have it. In other words he is not going to want you back. You are going to be hurt and left looking stupid. So if you tell him now that you like him and stop lying on Victoria, your chance is better because he will see how nice and honest you are; rather than him catching you in your lies.
And maybe you should stop trying to show off for Paul, I know you really like him but just be yourself and trust me, if he doesnt like you for you, then he isnt worth it. Being 13 is a young age and you have a long time to find a guy to love and to love you back.
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stop!!! He'll like you more if you are honest - from now on! Guys are less interested in girls, if they try too hard to be cool. Just be you, he obviousely likes you anyway as he can talk to you. He may like Victoria, but there is a saying 'girl/boy friends come and go but real friends are forever'.
He is very young and so are you and i can tell you now there will be a loads of people you will meet and fall in love with over your lifetime - trust me!
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i THiNK THAT YU SHOULD TELL THE ViCTORiA GiRL HOW PAUL REALLY FEELS! BECAYSE PUT YOURSELF iN HER SHHOES. YU WOULD WANT TO KNOW. RiGHT? & THEN TELL ViCORiA TAHT YU RREALLY LikE HiM! BEACUSE iT WiLL COME OUT SOONER OR LATER & ITS BETTER iF SHE HEARS iT FROM YU! & AS YU SAY THAT SHE DOESNT REALLY LikE HiM! THEN iF YU TELL HER THAT GiVES YU A CHANCES TO LIkE HiM WITH-OUT GOiN BEHinD HER BACK & LYiNG. & HOPE i HELPED.
<3 NESMiirA
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