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Under alot of pressure
Well there is this guy at school that I really like. First of all, Im not sure if he likes me. He like waits for me to walk with him after class and stuff and he talks to me alot, But i know if he did like me he would never ask me out because last year I said no when he asked me out. But last year I was a loser and was trying to be popular and stuff (girls you know how that goes...) but this year im just bein myself. Anyhow, the second thing is, everyone would TOTALly make fun of me if I went out with him. I know that shouldnt hold me back from him, but seriously. Every single person at school would make fun of me for like years. Anyways, what im really trying to ask is What am I supposed to do? How can I hint to him that I like him? and What should I do about people making fun of me? By the way im in ninth grade.
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Well first of all, I want you to re-read what you just said. ..."but this year im just bein myself." If you're just going to be yourself like you have been, then you shouldn't have to worry about people making fun of you. You're just being yourself, dating a guy who is being himself. And people might not make fun of you, you never know. If they really were your friend and liked you, then they wouldn't sit there making fun of someone you're interested in. And maybe even invite him to hang out with you and people to show them what a great guy he is and everything. People tend to make fun of people they don't know, and that's dumb.
And plus, you're in ninteh grade. People are always going make fun of you or someone else no matter what happens. People backstab, people lie, people treat others badly, but if you do have this guy to talk to and have fun with after all of it, it sounds like it's worth it to me. And just think of this ; are you REALLY going to let some immature 9th graders who you won't even probably see next year in school ( since classes REALLY split people up ) let you not be happy with someone?
To hint to him, just flirt with him a little more each and every day and compliment him and make him feel good about himself and give him a little more attention then you do other people ; it'll make him feel special. Then someday just go out with him somewhere and spend an awseome day together and flirt and everything, and as the day ends, let him know how you feel about him. Just explain to him,"Last year whenever you asked me out, and I said no, I was being pretty dumb. I was going through one of those phases where I just wanted to sit there and be popular and everything, and I wasn't focusing on anything but that. Now, I don't care about being popular anymore and I've had time to realize that I really do like you, _____. I don't know how you feel about me, but I just thought I should let you know cause if I didn't tell you know, I never would've. And if you have moved on and don't feel the same way, I really hope we can remain friends because I don't want me letting you know this to ruin it."
I hope I helped.
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It sounds to me as if he likes you. You don't just wait to walk to class with someone if you don't!
Part of growing up is learning to follow your own heart despite what others may say. If you really like this guy then let him know it and let everyone else know it too. They will get over it and will probably come to accept him over time regardless of whatever it is they don't like about him.
You are right that he may be scared to ask you out
after having been turned down once. I would bring it up and tell him you are sorry that you did that. Let him know you are not that same person and it will just naturally lead to him asking you out.
Good luck. :)
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Ok,
so first off start by talking to him. When he comes up to talk to you, smile at him. When you guys are friends, take him somewhere so that there's nobody but you 2. then say "i'm sorry, last year I was such a loser and I said no to you when you asked me out... now I just want to say that i'm really sorry, and if you ever did ask me out I would say yes." then tell him your feelings about him. If you're not honest with him, he wont be honest with you. As for the people making fun of you- just IGNORE them. Trust me, they'll get soo mad because they're trying to make fun of you. They WANT you to get all mad at them. But if you arn't mad at them, and just ignore them... THEY'LL get mad because YOU are mad. Get it???
Just do what feels right to you and just follow your heart.
I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150
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